The Best Way to Overcome - Serve Others

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818-572-2910. Good day, good day, good day everyone. How are you? It is a wonderful day here in Atlanta, Georgia. It's beautiful. The sun is out, and I see my video is skipping, skipping, skipping. So, hopefully that'll level out eventually. We'll see. It is a great day. It is a great day. It is— gosh, it's coming to a close of April. How about that? And I'm going to see what I can do here. It is coming to a close in April. We're more than, you know, 4 months in now, and it's just crazy. It's just absolutely crazy. Um, okay, give me one— I'm just gonna— one second. I'm gonna try to find out what the stability issue is with, um, the video, uh, because we are broadcasting live on the Shedding the Bitch Facebook page. Um, I'm thinking And we are also broadcasting through blogtalkradio.com/sheddingthebitchradio. So either way, we'll be talking about how serving others serves you and how it could be a great tool for you to overcome any type of being stuck, any type of frustration, apprehension, uncertainty. Any kind of discouragement that you might be feeling. You know, serving others definitely, definitely serves you in a number of ways. So, we are going to be talking about that, but a few things beforehand, and being that we're broadcasting on video and on radio, I want to be sure that this video issue doesn't continue. So bear with me just for 2 seconds. I'm not sure moving it is going to help, but I'm trying to figure out why. All morning it has been working, and now it is not. And I really don't want to give you a poor quality video. So for those of you that might be watching live on Facebook, I'm just going to end this broadcast. And, uh, that's horrible. We're going to end this broadcast just because it's not fair to you to, um, it's not fair to you to have to watch a scrambling video of our Shedding the Bitch episode. So, um, today we want to talk about serving others, and I just need to share, need to share briefly why also this kind of hit home for me as well, especially in the last couple of days. Over the weekend, I had learned that a friend had passed away very suddenly. Actually, it was Friday night. He went to bed with a heavy chest. No, it's not COVID. He went to bed with a heavy chest, and then he passed away through the evening, you know, through the night, peacefully, fortunately. Unfortunately, peacefully. And, uh, his young son found him the next, the next day. Now, when I say young, in their 20s. Not that it matters, young is young, but I didn't want anybody thinking it was a 5 or 10-year-old. Anyway, so it was odd for me for many reasons, obviously losing a friend. We weren't extremely close. I actually— he was a fellow pickleball friend that would come out and play with us. And he definitely was a unique character in his being. He was just a guy, if I can just add a little, he was just a guy who didn't take life too seriously. He was just very easygoing and he came out in flip-flops, often played barefoot. He came out with his own custom-made wood paddle that he made in his garage. He would, you know, make up homemade ice cream and bring it out to the group. He lived near pickleball courts where we would play, and he would come out every morning or when he knew we were going to be there on the weekends and/or in the evening, and he would make sure that all the courts were blown and all the courts were clean and all ready to go for when we showed up. He was a character, and I will admit that I took his kindness and his friendship for granted for a long period of time. And it's probably what really hit me the most when I realized that he was indeed gone. And so I kind of started thinking about the fact that we can't, we can't, we can't take each other for granted. We can't take even the stranger that we meet or the woman that, you know, has bagged groceries for us for the last 20 years or the mailman or woman that, you know, brought us our critical, fortunately, our bills, or our neighbor, or whoever it might be. Because forget of the situation that we're in right now with COVID we just don't know, you know, that, you know, the next time that we're going to see anyone and they see us. And so it really kind of gave me great pause over the weekend, especially as I would drive by his house and realize all of a sudden that he was no longer there. And I had seen him probably a couple of days before he passed. I had drove by him, and I'll be honest with you, I drove past him. I didn't stop. I continued on. I was, of course, you know, in my head, in a hurry, needed to get somewhere. And I thought to myself, briefly, uh, how, you know, I was—

that was rude.

I should have stopped. I should have said hello. I should at least put my hand out the window and waved, whatever the case might be. And yet I didn't, uh, and so I kind of had that, you know, sense of guilt, uh, for a time, even prior to finding out that he had passed. And then I— learning he was— he had passed, I certainly certainly felt again. And then I just realized that I, I cannot change what had happened and, you know, what the occurrence was. I can only want to sit and really appreciate him for who he was. And so I just want to kick off this conversation, not on a down, not on a down place, but just to recognize that as frustrating and as concerning And as I'm sure that we're all feeling, that you're feeling in regards to this whole isolation pandemic situation, the fact that your kids are at home or the other people in the house are all of a sudden there creating noise and havoc and preventing you from having your private time, your private space, whatever the case might be. All I would say, and again, I wasn't feeling this 5 days ago, but all I would say is try to take it in. Try to appreciate it for what it is. Try to kind of live in it. And when, you know, when those isolating feelings come up, or that overwhelming feeling comes up, or that need of space comes up, or that angst comes up, and you want to kill the person that is creating that angst for you, just take a deep, deep breath. And appreciate that, you know, that they're actually there with you, that they're actually, you know, able to spend time with you and you have this time with them. Because what I just learned, not that he's the first person that's in my life, but he definitely gave me a sense, and maybe because of everything going on, he gave me a sense of, you know, one day someone is here and the next they're gone. And it doesn't necessarily have to be by the, from the disease, the COVID that we're all dealing with, But just by, by even situations that we took for granted before, losing someone from a heart attack before seems very different today than it, than it did, you know, a couple months ago. Because now we are all thinking, oh, people are just dying from COVID And that is not the case. Anyway, I just want to just say, appreciate those around you. Appreciate you. And take some time to just give them a big hug and a thank you and I love you. And relish in their presence. And if you haven't reached out to someone, an old friend, a stranger, said hello to the woman at the grocery store, then do so and really be present in appreciating them. Trust me, as we're going to talk about serving others serves you, trust me, it'll do a lot of good just for you, even if it's just for you. All right? Okay. So, we'll move on. I do want to make mention of our previous episodes you might want to go back and listen to. We talked about persistence last week and what you really, you know, want to be thinking about and doing when it comes to persistence to just even in your, you know, most trying of days, you know, just take that one extra step, do that one extra thing, get up that that one extra morning and just, you know, work away at whatever it is that you're working so hard to achieve, and you will get the accomplishments that you want. You will get the riches, as I say, that you want. We then previously talked to Melanie Brown, and she shared with us her ministry of finding hope In Difficult Times, and collecting stories and sharing stories of inspiring women who have overcome tragedy and challenges in their life in hopes that we find hope in our darkest of times. So check that episode out as well. Also be sure to check that episode out as well as Persistence. We have been going live and video recording the episodes So they're also out there, if not in the Shedding the Bits stream on Facebook, on sheddingthebits.com, but certainly on our Shedding the Bits YouTube channel. So feel free to always check that out as well. We've had conversations previous to that around, you know, never wanting to lose hope or you'll miss the opportunities for abundance because there's a lot of abundance out there right now. We also then talked about turning your talents into riches, maybe pivoting into a whole different career, a whole different business, a whole different space, and shifting from fear to concern, especially around this situation that we're all in right now. If you can kind of get out of your head and that fear that you're experiencing and turn it into concern, you can get a lot more logical and unemotional about what you need to do and what steps you need to take in order to really explore live during this time period. It will be a time period none of us will ever forget, so let's make the most of it, shall we? That also leads me to just reminding you and letting you know if you're— we have our popular and transformative Goals to Riches Blueprint Series coming up on May 11th. It's a challenge to— either enhance and enrich your goals and the actions that you're taking on the plans that you already have in place, or if you don't have them in place, ensuring that you get them put into place. So we're going to help you create them. We're going to coach you on what those goals look like to ensure that they're very abundant, attractive. They're very actionable. They're very results-oriented. And they're very energetic. And giving you focus and clarity in what it is that you need to do each and every day that you get up. So it's been a very successful program for a number of people, a number of members of our Shift to Riches community, and so I welcome all of you to check that out and register for that challenge coming up on May 11th. You can go to goalstoriches.com/challenge for all the information. That's goalstoriches.com. All right, let's see. Today we are talking about serving others serves you. Question I want to leave you with so you can consider it as we have this conversation, and then we'll take a short break and come back and dive into it, is I want you to be thinking about what could you be doing today after you've listened to this program, what one thing could you do for someone else, regardless of anything that you have going on in your life, in your world, regardless of the to-do list that's in front of you, regardless of the time restraints that you feel that you have, regardless of the fact that you can't go out and touch them and feel them and interact with them, but what is one thing that you could be doing to serve others? Think about that as we take a short break, come back and dive into this conversation of serving others certainly serves you. We'll be right back. Shedding the Bits Radio is available for download anytime on Apple Podcasts, sheddingthebits.com, and blogtalkradio.com. Be sure to subscribe to the program for all of the updates and announcements announcements of our guests and show topics. I want to thank our sponsors, North Georgia Tax Solutions, who offers a broad range of tax services for small to corporate size clients. Go to NGTaxSolutions.com to learn more. And Parker House Virtual Services, who provides virtual assistance and social media support for small to medium size businesses, including mine. Email deborah@deborahparker.va@gmail.com. Would you like to reach our audience as a sponsor or advertiser? Email us at mediarelations@sheddingthebitch.com. Now let's get back to the show. Everyone, all right, we are talking about serving others and how serving others can serve you. Now, I did initiate and execute going live again on Shedding the Bits, just in case any of you are out there expecting it. We're still having technical issues. I'm just going to leave that alone. All right, so what I want to talk about is the fact that despite everything that's been going on, despite all the frustration and uncertainty and, and chaos that each one of us have been dealing with over the, over the last, you know, it's getting into a couple of months now. There are ways for you to be able to get focused, get clarity, get energized, get optimistic, get productive, and really forge ahead and trusting and getting to a place where you trust the fact that there are going to be better days ahead of us. There are going to be better days ahead of us. And I know that's easy to say when you have work, you have pivoted your income generation to another source maybe. It's easy when you have effectively organized and managed your home life. That could possibly involve kids being homeschooled or you having to you know, go remote and set up a home office and figure out all the tools and the tricks that you need to use in order to be as effective as possible. It's easy to say there will be better days ahead when everything seems to be falling into place. And maybe you're someone like me who is accustomed to working from home, is accustomed to working on their own and not like with a team of people, who is accustomed to kind of, um, not being a wild, crazy social person. So yes, a daily trip to the grocery store or to pick up some takeout kind of feels normal. It is not out of the, the complete ordinary for you. Not everyone though has adjusted that way. Not everyone has gotten to a place of even surviving, let alone thriving. And I certainly feel for you. I must admit I have had a just a small hiccup of an interruption as a result of this isolation. I'm accustomed to being on my own, working on my own. I have a small team that I don't need to necessarily interact with on a regular basis. They manage themselves. I, you know, do go out and get my groceries and pick up takeout food and get to say hello to the mailman 6 feet away. So, I haven't felt it, but I certainly have heard from you and the struggles that you're having. And so, what I really want to do is just kind of focus on you for a moment and have you focus on you and think about that rich question of what could you be doing to serving others? Because trust me when I say it is a game changer, and I'll explain why I personally feel that way. And how you might be able to recognize it for yourself as well. Several years ago, I was part of a women's Bible study group with my local church and the, and the church that I go to each week. And quite honestly, I never, never saw myself as someone who would be part of a women's Bible group, let alone opening a Bible and reading it. Now I have a couple of them because I was my parents— both my mother and my father's Bibles were left to me, and I cherish them, absolutely cherish them. But at the same time, it's not like over the years I've cracked them open and sat on my bed or sat on the couch and read them. I'm, you know, full disclosure. I even— with the Women's Bible Study, I never imagined that I would, you know, give testimony to who I was at that point in time, you know, who I had been and who I wanted to become. And standing up in a room full of other women, you know, bawling my eyes out and kind of giving testimony to all that in my past, even beyond what I wrote in my book, uh, Shedding the Corporate Bitch, uh, even going, you know, way beyond that because it was a number of years after I'd written the book. But as we were, you know, getting to know each other and we were sharing and we were reading the Bible and we were listening to each other's testimony, someone brought up, not an exact passage, but someone brought up the whole concept, I'll call it, of serving others serves you, of that belief system, of that way of living, a way of being. And I'll be honest with you, I didn't get it. Someone made that statement very short and sweet, serving others serves you, and I immediately went to a place of how, you know, that's selfish. How could someone be that selfish that they actually focus on serving others so they are served? I was already like that. I had started shedding, you know, because this was about 2015, 2016, and I already had started shedding what I call the bitches within myself to where I wasn't, you know, that narcissistic, manipulative person that I had been for decades. But at the same time, I still had not fully shed the idea of, you know, kind of not only being on my own, but wanting for my own, you know, and therefore being— still being selfish in certain ways. Not in complete ways, but certain ways. And so I just didn't get this concept. I sat with it, sat with it, prayed on it, prayed on it, and then I would say while I was in this Bible study group, I wrote off a couple of big long-term coaching and consulting clients, and I found myself kind of with an empty docket of clients. I had some individual clients, but these two took up about 6 years of almost full-time work that I had had, and all of a sudden I found myself starting over again, and I was lost, and I was unsure of what I wanted to do. Maybe what you're feeling right now as a result of everything going on. So I sat there and I worked really hard to figure it all out, and I'm a goal setter and a goal planner, and I'm an action goer, and yet none of it was coming together for me. Have you ever felt that way where you, you know, you have all the best plans in black and white in a notebook, and yet nothing was motivating me to want to do it. Nothing was getting me excited. Nothing was kind of turning me on, so to speak. And I had started at this point in time working on my screenplay. So many of you may know, it was suggested to me to turn my book, Shedding the Corporate Bitch, into a feature film script. I had no idea what that was about, and that's for another day and another another episode maybe. But I started working on it. And as a result, here's where my selfishness still existed. As a result, I realized that if I wanted to produce this, I didn't have all these grandiose ideas that I was going to go and go to Hollywood and a big producer was going to pick it up and buy it and produce it. That is certainly a goal of mine. I never shied away from that. But I didn't have any expectations that it was going to be easy. So I said to myself, okay, if I can't get it produced by someone else, I'll produce it myself. Well, where that led me is, well, if I'm going to produce it myself and I'm in Atlanta and there's a lot of film business going on here, I'm going to start a community that brings together other creatives like myself and money that we all need in order to get our content produced. So that sounds great, right? Uh, and so I created this creative investor community and then a creator investor event that I actually held for 3 or 4 years, um, since roughly 2015. Now where the selfishness is, is I started off very selfish. I figured if I needed money, then I need to go and figure out how I can kind of get in front of those people with money. And the best way to do that is to provide this outlet for them to find investment opportunities. So at first it was kind of selfish of me, and yet I found myself meeting all these wonderful creatives and all these wonderful people that did have money and all these people that were interested in building up the Atlanta film community. I was doing all of this anyway for free, and so I found myself creating holding and creating these events, uh, over a number of years, and then doing masterminds and other, you know, kind of, um, meetup gatherings throughout the year. And I was doing it all kind of on my dime because it wasn't necessarily making money, and I wasn't necessarily thinking about profiting from it. I was just simply trying to create an outlet. Well, all of a sudden I realized that my selfishness was turning into selflessness. I wanted to serve those creatives. I wanted them to find money and find a place where they can get their great stories and their great imaginations and their crazy ideas of storytelling. I wanted them to be successful in getting them on the screen, big, small, in a theater, on your laptop, I didn't care. And so then that serving others first has really kind of become clear and understood and accepted as something that was actually really turning me on and helping me find my path and find my passion and find where I'm best, you know, serving. And in true disclosure, it wasn't in continuing that Creative Investor Community. I actually rolled off of that a year and a half ago, but I do continue to try to serve and broker and matchmake creatives with money. But I decided that I needed and wanted to go and really serve other individuals, help them to find their path, help them to find their passion. In life and help them to really thrive. And so, Serving Others Serves You just kind of became my mantra almost as far as everything that I do and everyone that I serve and that I coach and that I consult with. It transformed everything about my life and I thought to myself, this is a simple tool that anyone can use to transfer— transform, rather, their life. And it opened up so many doors and avenues and ideas that I just felt strongly that it's something that you would certainly benefit from if in any way, shape, or form you're struggling on your own to kind of take care of yourself, let alone consider helping anybody else. And who can fault you for that? If you're sitting at home going, oh my God, I can't pay the bills, I can't feed my kids, I can't, you know, take care of my dog, I can't, you know, pay for the roof over my head, how am I— how is it I'm going to be able to, you know, give to someone else? Keep in mind, it's not necessarily giving anything of material, you know. It's not money, it's not possession. Giving is just your heart. Giving is your spirit. Giving is your expertise. Giving is your time, just to even sit and listen, you know, whatever the case might be. So, you know, keep that question in mind that we posed at the beginning of the conversation around what is it, what one thing you could be doing to serve someone else. And what it brought me, and it would certainly bring you, is just such joy and happiness, such satisfaction when all of a sudden someone, you know, their eyes open up or they have this aha moment or they kind of, you know, shed a tear of just pure humility and happiness. It does certainly relieve stress and any self-doubt or self-loathing that one might be feeling. It takes a lot of weight off of you, even for something that doesn't cost anything but, but being you and, and giving your heart and your spirit someone else. And, and keep in mind, as much as you may be in a house, a room, a small apartment, whatever the case might be, with a bunch of other people who you are thinking are driving you crazy, You know, you might be the— their answer. You might be their service. You might be exactly what they need in order to— for themselves to overcome and to thrive. So Serving Others Serving You is a great tool for you to just kind of forget about all your junk, all your feeling stuck, all of your fear, all of your uncertainty, all of your doubt, all of your unfulfillment, all of your anxiety and turn it around and, you know, put you onto someone else. Not all that junk, mind you, but onto someone else. And all those things, I can guarantee you, will be minimized. It won't only take away your stress and your, and your possible depression, but it'll even minimize any physical or emotional pain that you're feeling. It will open up your spirit, your heart, your mind to creative ideas and to, um, to new possibilities and to new opportunities and even to new goals and new dreams that you might have. And then all of a sudden, as that creation is happening, all of a sudden the energy is happening, you know. All of a sudden you're feeling, you know, even if it's just a little bit more, uh, present even more current, you know, right now, and as opposed to in your head and worry, worry, worry. It kind of provides all of a sudden a clear glass that you can look through, a clear lens I should say, that you can look through. And as you're, you know, fueling yourself with this service of others, finding what it is that you should be doing Even if it's the same purpose that you have today, or I shouldn't even say yesterday, and yet you haven't really felt tied to it, you have an opportunity to really decide or maybe, you know, say to yourself, yes, that's the direction that I need to go, is doing the same things that I had lined up, focusing on the same goals I had had but lost energy around, and now I just feel kind of propelled to want to start taking action on them. Small or big, it doesn't matter. Small steps, big steps, small achievements, big achievements, it doesn't matter. Just doing something will give you that energy and that excitement and that purpose. So if you are, you know, in any way feeling any of those things that we've discussed, you know, prior to leveraging this tool of serving others to serve you. I also would have you, you know, kind of ask yourself a question. Apart from what can I do for someone else, who can I be for someone else? You know, people need things. People need— whether it is materialistic things or it is just emotional support. But they need it from kind of an intentional purpose— person. So, going out to serve others to serve you without it being tied to your heart, that will be very inauthentic, unauthentic. It's not all you and your heart and your want and your desire to help someone else. So, apart from the question of what is the one thing that you could be doing for someone else, But who is that person? You know, how do you want to show up for that individual? You know, do you want to show up as a good ear, you know, for them to have you listen to? Or do you want to show up as a, just a consoler? You're just sitting there in peace and quiet, letting them do, you know, whatever they need to do, and experience and feel whatever they need to feel and experience. Do you need to show up with a, you know, helping hand, whether that is materialistic, whether that is service, whether that is, you know, monetary, whatever the case might be. Consider your gratitudes and your blessings. Whenever you are stuck, when you are afraid, when you are unsure what to do or unclear of your path, also just turn to your gratitudes. Gratitude and blessings. Write them down. Sit with them. Appreciate them. Consider what they've brought into your life. Consider how they inspire you into action, inspire you into positivity. Look at those gratitudes and blessings for everything from the leaf that's blowing on the tree outside, the sun that's shining, to the food that you have in your, you know, in your pantry, to the clothes you have on your back, to the people you have in your life. It doesn't matter how you know, how small or how large those gratitudes and blessings are either. You know, consider how they inspire you into wanting to live and live in a thriving way, in an abundant way. And down to the basics, you can just go to your long-term goals if you have them and look at them for energy, for fuel, for creativity, for purpose. For focus, for clarity. Lean on them when you are all of a sudden in a place of just, you know, uncertainty, no— lack of desire to do anything. And if you don't have them, you know what I'm going to say, if you don't have them, then create them. Use this time, even in a state of fogginess, even in a state of, oh, just emptiness. Maybe, you know, you're just coming up blank. Just sit with the idea that you do want and have goals, and you just need to either revisit them or you just need to start with a clean slate and start brainstorming on what those things might look like even though you feel very unclear and very blank around what they are. Just sit with them and at least consider what they might be. Eventually you'll, you know, find something start to percolate to where, okay, well, this isn't entirely what I was thinking about, but, you know, I'm going to, you know, give it some thought. I'm going to consider it. I'm going to sit with it. I'm going to let it take me where, where it wants to take me. You can also always go back to your why. Why is it that you do what you do? Why is it you're the person that you are? Why is it that you have what you have? Why, why, why? Your whys are your best opportunity and your best piece of you that you can always go back to, to ground yourself and why you're here on this earth, why you have a breath at this very moment in time, why you have the ability to take action and to, you know, shift your mindset. Though it's, you know, just very challenging for you to do so right now. Be okay with that, but can sit and consider that those whys in your life. Why do you do what you do? Why are you the person that you are? Why do you have the people in your life that you have? You know, why do you have the job that you have? Why do you work as hard as you do? All those whys will also help you to say, you know what, I no longer want to be in this state, and as a result of that, I'm going to go and serve others with all of this why that I have within me. And I know that serving others will serve me in so many ways that will allow me to see clearly and find that, that fuel to move me forward. Now, you could simply— you could consider doing a few things for someone else and then one thing for you. That's another way to kind of jolt you into, into action, into movement, is If you— serving others serves you— feels selfish to you, well, do something for someone else and then do something for yourself. Do something for someone else and realize what that's bringing to you, what that's giving you, what that's, you know, allowing you to feel, allowing you to experience. Um, so if you need to, do something for someone else and then do something for yourself, and that— and that too can help you find that momentum moving forward. But keep in mind too, you need to feel whatever it is that you're feeling. And in that crowded house that you might be living in, or that crowded Zoom call that you might be dealing with, um, with, you know, people that might not understand what you personally are going through, well, you don't need to get them to agree or support you in what you're going through. You just need to be kind to yourself, and you need to be able to process and feel and live in whatever it is that you're experiencing. But I want you to choose fear and anxiety and stress and depression and moodiness and uncertainty. Just choose that you want something more. You want something new and something different. Uh, choose that you want to thrive. And you want to be even an example for other people, and you want to be that person that can truly serve them, um, for no reason at all other than to help everyone around you to move through not only today and tomorrow but the future in a very optimistic, positive, productive, um, heart-led, servant-led way, because you deserve it. You deserve to look around at this very moment in time and take in what it's offering you. Take in the abundance that is there. Take in the opportunities that are, that are sitting there waiting for you to recognize them, quote, of them. You deserve it for you. Your family deserves it. Your friends deserve it. Your teams deserve it. And I'll go back to you deserve it as a whole. That's the bottom line is you deserve it in every, any, every way, shape, or form. Now, if you need support, guidance, and accountability around it, if you need that kick in the butt, if you need you know, this— the hand that will serve you, then don't hesitate to reach out and make sure that you take care of yourself. And that's what we're here for in the Shedding the Bits community. And you can always reach out to me, of course, Bernadette Boas at ballofireinc.com. All right, um, okay, next week it is the the first week of May. Do you believe it? Oh my gosh. And we're going to be having our episode of— if you have a specific question around your career, your business, your life, then I want to hear it and I want to be able to support you with it. And if you actually post it on Facebook or Twitter or Shedding the Bitch pages and I have an opportunity, if it's something that I can't answer, I'm going to find an expert expert and a resource, and I can bring them right here onto the program next Tuesday as well to talk through any response, any help, any advice that they can give you on maybe the challenge that you're having, the question that you have, or the story that you simply want to share. So be sure to seek that help. Ask for that hand. Allow me to serve you. And then at the same time, consider how serving others can serve you and go and do it, because you will realize that giving of yourself to someone else without any, any thought of, you know, reciprocation, any thought of benefit, you know, possessively or materialistically, you just do it out of your heart, it will be fuel and the engine that you need to be able to thrive. For everyone here in the Shedding the Bitch community, thank you very much, and I'll look forward to having you right back here next Tuesday at noon Eastern time. Take care, everyone.

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