In this monologue, the speaker introduces "heart centering" as a foundational skill for interacting with people, arguing that humans are not purely rational machines and therefore cannot be engineered like systems. Drawing on her background as a systems engineer and personal experience with failed attempts to apply logical design to relationships, she explains that emotions are vibrational frequencies of the body, referencing David Hawkins' work in Power vs. Force. By consciously choosing lower‑frequency states such as anger or anxiety, or higher‑frequency states like calm, peace, and acceptance, a person can shift how they experience and respond to the world. The speaker positions heart centering as a teachable practice for leaders, enabling them to access a wiser, more authentic state that supports vulnerability and authenticity in leadership.
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The first skill I came up with, and what I consider the foundational skill, is when you're dealing with people, they're not logical and rational. They're not like a machine. You don't design them. Believe me, I tried with previous marriages. Being a systems engineer, you know, I kind of bring that thinking into, and, you know, I could not engineer my previous relationships. So it doesn't work. From a personal point of view. And what I realized is in relationships, we've got to be able to interact from a different place than just our rational mind. We've got to have— and you hear it today, you want, you want leaders who are authentic, who are vulnerable, etc., etc. Those are very hard states to be in. But in my own journey, I realized that there's a place within me that I can becomes, I'll call it, centered in or located, sort of like the way my body vibrates. And I call that the heart center. And as you said, the heart center is a place of wisdom. So, and it's not a hard thing for people to experience. It's a hard thing to maintain on a regular basis. But it's not a hard thing to experience and to develop as a skill. Because think of the, think of the human body as a, as a collection of vibrational frequencies. And there's been some work done. I think one of the people that did this really well in the early days was David Hawkins in his book Power Versus Force. We talked about what we call emotions are really vibrational frequencies of the body. So I took that notion and, and some of my other experiences and said, well, if I can choose my— to the frequency my body vibrates at, that would put me in a state to be at a different level of experiencing the world around me. If I'm experiencing the world through anger, or if I'm experiencing it through anxiety, my body and my mind are going to respond a certain way. If I experience it through calm, through peace, through acceptance of what is, I'll, I'll be able to deal with life very differently. So what I wanted to be able to teach leaders is how to get into that state, and that's what we call heart centering.
