What to do when all seems lost.... with Bernadette Boas

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Good day, good day, good day everyone! How are you on this beautiful, wonderful October day? Oh my gosh, it's October 10th. Are you getting ready for Halloween? For those of you who celebrate Halloween, I actually love Halloween. I love getting dressed up. I don't have an opportunity to as much nowadays, you know, you hit a certain age and Oh, we get— you get boring. But I hope, uh, I hope you, your family, your kids, your neighbors, um, are going to take advantage of an opportunity to kind of like put on a new skin, put on a new personality, an opportunity to really express yourself. But I can't believe it is October. I know I've been saying that a lot lately, uh, just because this particular year has just seemed to just fly by. It was January just seconds ago, and now it's, it's October. And I, you know, we're kicking into high gear when it comes to the holidays. I was out and about shopping over the last few weeks for more like home accessory stuff and saw the Christmas trees and the Santa Claus statues or whatever they are, and I just— I'm not really ready. I'm not ready. I am ready for the holidays though. I have to admit that. I'm ready for the change in season, I think, more so than the holidays. The smell of the falling leaves, the dampness of the chilly mornings, the— just the overall— the smell of burning leaves, as long as you're doing it safely. We don't need any more fires than what's going on out there. But anyway, I hope you are just having a beautiful, beautiful day or evening wherever you might be. I love the fact that so many of you— and the show just keeps picking up, gets, you know, picked up, picked up, picked up even more from listenerships, whether you're downloading it on iTunes or BlogTalkRadio or elsewhere. And we all thank you here at Shitting the Bitch. We all thank you for that. I do have a lot of, a number of shoutouts I want to do. We are going to have a conversation regarding just kind of when you're at a point of feeling really lost or when you just are, you know, feeling like you've lost all hope. You know, we're going to get into kind of a conversation of that, but in a positive, constructive, uplifting way, you know, uplifting conversations. But before we do, let me just do some shoutouts. I've been a very busy woman, especially last week. I had 3 speaking engagements, so I appreciate all of them who had me at their organization meetings, at their conferences, whatever the case might be. I started off with PMI, which is Project Management Institute, and they have a program PM in the AM that they asked me to come out and discuss Shift to Riches. Everything that we discuss here at Shedding the Bitch. So I want to thank Bill Affilet and his whole team over there. It was a great session. Thank you, ladies and gentlemen, for having me and being very engaging and open to the conversation. I find that there's a tendency, more so corporate-wise than entrepreneurial-wise, where any conversation regarding mindset and personal development or personal growth is a little bit uncomfortable. Uh, it's very easy to talk professional development. Give me something, a skill or a talent or a function I need to be trained on, and I'm comfortable in that space. But a lot of people are uncomfortable when it comes to getting uncomfortable. So, uh, we had a great conversation regarding the mindset and just overall what you can do, um, to shift to riches, as we discussed here. So I want to thank all of them at the PMI of Atlanta. Uh, you were very welcoming. And then Tuesday and Wednesday I spent with an organization— this is fabulous— it was the Women in Business North America Summit. And if you're not aware of it and you're in South America, North America, or the United States, please, um, look it up. And I'm sorry, I'm more so talking Mexico, United States, and Canada. Um, I, I have some allergy medicine going on, so forgive me. Um, But Lisa Stockley and her team, they're out of the General Consulate of Canada that put on this event. And they brought together Mexico, United States, and North America, Canada, to talk about really how women are succeeding in business and at the same time what women can do more so to kind of find their footing, whether it is corporate or on their own in the entrepreneurial world. To really accelerate their own growth and that of others around them. So I want to thank all the people who put that function on. Again, it's the Women in Business North America Summit, Mexico, United States, and Canada who came together. And I was part of a number of their entertainment sections of the agenda. I spoke on one of their panels regarding how to pitch perfectly or how to have a perfect pitch, whether you're pitching film or TV projects. But also, I really feel strongly that every one of us pitch in our life. We pitch to be a wife, we pitch to be a mother, we pitch when we want a new job, we're pitching when we need to sell our product or our service. So learning how to pitch/present is key. So that's— we'll have a conversation of that here on Shedding the Bitch Radio coming up, uh, in the near future. But in the meantime, a shout out to them. And lastly, Siege Gaming Conference is one of the largest conferences in the Southeast for gaming. And what they do is they bring in game developers to pitch a, you know, a room full of, of, uh, judges. Some are investors, some are like me who are in the investor world, um, from a consulting perspective. And so I was welcomed back again to be one of their judges, and that was a great event. Rob Hasset and Andrew Greenberg, thank you very much for having me. Um, excuse me, I want to do a shout out to my sister Mary as well. It was her birthday on October 8th. Happy belated! I did reach out to her that day, but I love to do shout outs. On programs, just in case some of her friends are listening. Let's see what else before we dive into this. Of course, and it's going to be the kind of the center of our conversation today, of course we need to continue, you know, every day, but at the same time there's some significant periods of time, you know, we should all go quiet and really reflect on some situations that are happening out in the world. And so prayers from the Hall Shed and the Bitch community go out to those in Las Vegas, actually all over the world, who lost their lives or lost loved ones or just were hurt. And then also to the first responders and to all the regular citizens who dove in there to help, and a number of them, you know, being killed as a result of it, you know, jumping on strangers. To cover them up from being injured, but yet they in turn are injured or killed. So just prayers overall to all of those dealing with that, all those dealing with the fires out in California, all those dealing with the flooding and the storms. It's just, it's just been quite a couple months, and we're going to dive into that a little bit more as part of this whole conversation. And there are so many disasters going on, and you might be asking yourself, you know, what will ever get it to stop? What will ever stop these shootings? What will ever stop these, you know, nature-made situations? And yet at the same time, if they don't— and you could pretty much guarantee that they won't— what can you do to kind of, not only safeguard yourself but also not be negatively impacted by it. And we'll talk more about that, um, and actually why I decided to have this conversation at the last minute, only simply because of some things I recognized within myself, uh, as a result of everything that's just going on. So anyway, we're going to talk about how can you identify whether or not these situations that you may not have anything immediate or direct to do with, how can you identify whether or not they are impacting you? And then really understanding what is that impact of the impact. So if you are being impacted in any way, shape, or form as a result of kind of just everything going on externally around you, not only can— how can you identify it, but how can you really be honest about how it could be physically, emotionally, mentally, mentally, spiritually impacting you. Because again, we always talk about self-awareness, and self-awareness is key to being able to make any kind of shift you want to make in your world. So then we'll talk about what can you do if you are, um, being especially negatively impacted, and then what can you do just overall, because maybe you're not Maybe you are really good at isolating those type of situations, yet at the same time you do feel kind of moved to want to do something. So we'll talk about that as well. And as a result, as part of your rich question, it's kind of a two-parter. I really want you to be thinking about and tapping into what are those physical or emotional or mental shifts you've made, whether it's positive or negative, as a result of just everything going on. Now, of course, all of these things have always gone on forever and a day. And yet at the same time, you can kind of look at social media and media as a whole, the fact that we have it going 24/7 in massive, massive amounts of quantity, You know, that certainly changes things and that certainly exposes us to more than we've ever been exposed to before. And therefore, as a result, it is impacting us whether you've acknowledged it or not. And what I want to give you an opportunity to do, at least for this short time, is to recognize if it is and how it is. So what are those physical, emotional, mental, spiritual kind of reactions you are going through. And then secondly, what have you done about them thus far? And if you say nothing, it's nothing. But if you say, well, I've done this, this, and this, this, great. And then we're gonna, uh, talk through even more so, um, what you can do for yourself and then how you can turn that externally to others. Uh, some rich tags. You can use hashtag healing or hashtag surviving or hashtag— no, actually, let's change surviving. And I know Deborah's out there. Let's change surviving to hashtag America Strong. And then of course hashtag Shed the Bitch on Facebook or Twitter. And of course Deborah is out there at Parker House Virtual Services. She is out there, so feel free to shoot her or I a note during the program, or if you are taking us with you, at any time reach out on Shedding the Bitch Facebook or Twitter, and we'll be more than happy to get back with you or just do a shout-out thanking you for retweeting or tweeting or Facebooking something about what you've heard on the program. All right, so with that, we're gonna take a short break. I'm gonna take a deep breath. We're gonna come back and we're gonna start talking about, you know, when all seems lost, what are, what are the glimmers of light out there? Because there's a lot of them. So we'll be right back.

You are listening to Shedding the Bitch Radio with Bernadette Boas. We are inspiring individuals around the globe to discover, confront, and shed their bitches of fear. Fear, insecurity, and negativity so they can create the riches in their career, business, and life they deserve. Be sure to check out Bernadette Boas' book, Shedding the Corporate Bitch: Shifting from Bitch to Rich in Life and Business, available on Amazon and sheddingthebitch.com. We also want to thank our sponsors, TSR Consulting, who offers a broad range of tax services for small to corporate-sized clients. Go to TSRConsulting.com to learn more. And Parker House Virtual Services, who provides virtual assistance and social media support for small to medium-sized businesses. Email Deborah Parker at deborahparker78@gmail.com for more information. To become a sponsor or advertiser on our program, email us at MediaRelations@SheddingTheBitch.com. Shedding the Bitch Radio airs every Tuesday at noon Eastern time. Be sure to go to blogtalkradio.com/sheddingthebitchradio and follow the program for all of the updates and announcements of our guests and show topics. Now let's return to Bernadette and Shedding the Bitch Radio.

Welcome back everyone, we are trying to paint, to kind of paint some light, shine some light on what can often look like all hell's breaking loose in the world, whether that's from Mother Nature, whether that's from artificial lack of intelligence when it comes to what leaders of our company, of our country not only politically, but even from a business perspective or entertainment perspective. If you've heard about the Harvey Weinstein situation, you know, a significant icon in the entertainment industry getting ousted from his own company for sexual harassment type of allegations. And then you have, of course, the whole kneeling for the anthem. Situation. And you have, of course, President Trump running around calling— causing all kinds of chaos. You know, it gets to a point where you just have to laugh around that stuff. But why I really kind of switched up what we were gonna be doing today is, um, I over the weekend kind of had to sit down myself and kind of go inward and try to figure out why I was feeling so heavy. And not heavy physically. I mean, I can always lose a few pounds. But I was feeling heavy emotionally, spiritually, mentally. I was feeling heavy just overall from a— my normal, you know, very positive, very uplifting, very energetic personality, being. I just was feeling heavy, even going through the motions of, you know, some fun and exciting and engaging, um, uh, meetings. And I mentioned to you I had some speaking engagements last week. I still just— the minute I had an opportunity to breathe, I just went back to that heaviness. So I kind of sat down over the weekend because I really needed to catch up on a lot of work since I was out pretty much all last week. At those events, preparing for them and then doing them and then, you know, post-reception type of thing. And I could not even— I could not even focus to try to start catching up on the workload that was piling up in front of me. And I kind of— so I sat quietly and I was suddenly brought back to Hurricane Andrew. If any of you are, you know, kind of recall that. I lived through it. It was in South Florida back in the, gosh, I'm going to get that wrong, back in the '80s, I want to say, maybe early '90s, actually early '90s. And I, you know, I went through that. And when I say I went through that, you know, you go through that absolute fear of the unknown of what's going to happen. And then you kind of are looking around, making sure you're safeguarding yourself. And I happen to live in a, uh, 2-story townhouse that was all glass, the whole front of it. First floor and second floor were all glass. And I knew I was— that wasn't a good situation to be in, so I took off and went over to a friend's who, you know, invited me into their home. And as the evening was was kind of progressing and the storm was building, and I wasn't even in the worst section of the state that was going to be experiencing this, but I still was getting consumed with just this overwhelming fear of the unknown of what was going to happen and whether I was safe and whether or not my friends down in South Florida were safe as well. And then do— so I got up in the middle of the night, actually, I got up in the middle of the night because I just really could not get comfortable, and I went back to my house. Uh, though I was, you know, safe and sound at my friend's house, I just laid there. I happened to have to sleep on the couch, um, in their den. So I laid there in the den looking up at the— up at the ceiling, and I just could not get comfortable. And I landed up going home, and I kind of said to myself, okay, it is what it is. And I'll just look to the man up above. I, you know, my community, my area of South Florida was spared greatly. Yes, we had some downed trees and all that kind of good stuff, but we were spared. Long story short, went down into Miami and because that's where I worked, went down into Miami and saw the devastation that was there. And I can't even begin to tell you how I was overcome with just absolute sadness and absolute despair and helpless— feelings of helplessness, because I certainly rolled up my sleeves and got into that part of Dade County and tried to clean up. And we did as part of our work. Our work and our company. But at the same time, I just felt so helpless that there were like hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and thousands of people without homes and without food and without shelter. And yet I felt like I couldn't do anything. So progress 30 years, 20-something years, and I really, I realized over the weekend that between Harvey and Irma and Puerto Rico, I just— and watching the whole situation even 2 weeks, week later with Puerto Rico, I just was overcome with a feeling of helplessness, with a feeling of sadness, with a feeling of outright frustration and anger even that the situation is what it is still. And then I heard a comment about that it could take 10 to 12 months. To get electricity back to Puerto Rico. And that just absolutely, like, sent me to the floor this morning. I— when I heard that this morning, that's when I changed up everything. I was just like, what can we all do? Because I'm not the only one who's thousands of miles away from that situation and yet feeling it. And I realized that my heaviness over the past several weeks has been because it's almost like PTSD. And I, I'm not looking to, to belittle or dismiss, you know, PTSD that comes out of being in the wars and being in, in severe tragedies and situations. However, I think we all experience from a situation in our lives that was life-altering, whether that's mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally. We have a form of that. We have a form of remembering and remembering that hard time and, you know, feeling unsure of whether or not it's ever going to be right again or whether or not you can do something about it and make change. And so all I thought I could do, especially over the last several weeks too, is write a check or donate or send, you know, supplies. And for, you know, and we've been talking about for about 2 months how to do that effectively to where it's going to the place that you want it to go. And so I just kind of sat down this morning even and had to reconcile for myself that I am feeling their pain. I am feeling their uncertainty of what's, you know, to come, their fear. Of the unknown and their feeling of hopelessness. And mine was being kind of interpreted in helplessness. And so I thought to myself, okay, I need to figure out what I can do, let alone what I can then help others to consider doing if they're feeling and experiencing the same type of things. So the first part of the conversation around identifying the impact is I think we all do need to recognize that as human beings with hearts, we are gonna take on the environment around us. We are gonna take on when our neighbors are hurt or when our family members are sick or when someone loses their home or especially large communities, let alone countries, are devastated by earthquakes or, or, fires or hurricanes or shootings, whatever the case might be. We do take it on simply because we are all connected, but whether it's by energy as some people view it or by just humanity, we're all connected. So we have to be kind to ourselves and kind of really take time to identify whether or not how we are in our current state is impacted in any way, shape, or form, negatively or positively, by the things going on around us. And that's kind of what really hit me this morning is I talk so much about being self-aware, and yet I realized after a few— probably a good half hour, 45 minutes this morning— that I really wasn't self-aware of how all this stuff over the last couple of months has seeped into my, into my subconscious and has wreaked havoc on it to a degree to where it was leaving me very— all I can call it is heavy, heavy in the heart, heavy in the mind, whatever the case might be. So I just ask you, and you know, if you're feeling kind of lost, unsure, maybe you're not seeing it as a world situation, maybe it's more closer to home, maybe it's even closer to your, your family, or even closer to yourself. Um, just take time to really assess and, and really understand what's going on within you. Uh, because I often talk about the fact that, and I, I've, I've seen it for myself even toward my own dog, um, and that happened like yesterday, and I just said to myself Why am I so agitated? Nothing really is going on in my immediate life that would cause me that, other than being busy, but we're all busy. And actually, I thrive in being busy. I actually kind of, my energy level, my positivity level goes up. And I kind of said, when I sat this morning, I just realized that I have this level, this surface level agitation and this heaviness. Which is now— or not now, but now that I'm aware of it— but as of this morning, it was still causing me to project out and be short and be kind of empty, kind of void. And that's definitely not like me. So I want to give you an opportunity to kind of consider that for yourself as well. What, what can you do to get closer quiet, really assess your state of being in all its forms—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. You know, figure out how you've been responding, like be honest with yourself of how you might have projected those feelings. And again, some of you may not be having that type of response and reaction, and that's fine. I certainly don't want to even consider that I want everybody feeling heaviness or whatever the case might be. That's not what I'm, what I'm saying at all. And so for those that may not be taking it on themselves, because that's where I want to get to, I want to get to where I definitely sympathize and I definitely want to help and serve and do what I can to be an outreach during those type of situations. You can do that without taking that burden and that heaviness on. And yet, you know, you take it on enough to know that you're human and that you have a heart and that you feel for them. At the same time, you know, you're able to kind of put it in a place where then you start kind of releasing it as a way of serving and giving back and and just reaching out with your heart and with your soul, if that makes sense. So go quiet, assess your state of being, note how you're responding and reacting to it, 'cause we can't deny that with the onslaught of media and access, you turn on the TV, you turn on your Facebook page, You turn on email and it's just— forget about the posts that are coming at you, but the content within all of those posts and media news updates and even your emails can be awfully, awfully heavy. So we have to kind of recognize that and figure out ways to manage it effectively so it doesn't create all kinds of impact. And then be okay if you decide that you have to shut out the noise. Be okay if you decide that, you know, the amount of people reaching out, you know, with GoFundMe pages and with, you know, asking for donations. And they were kind of saying that the Red Cross and Salvation Army, that people were kind of growing numb after, it was Harvey and then Irma and then Maria? So, you know, by the time it got to Irma and then Maria, people were growing numb, you know, from all the requests for donations and help. And we don't want to do that. We don't want to do that. But at the same time, we do need to kind of create a protective barrier around ourselves to where we're just not, you know, taking it all on. And if we are, then we're managing it in such a way that we can be effective. And being able to reach out when we can. And there's a lot of ways to do that without it being costly or of an effort to anyone who may not be capable of doing it. And we'll talk about that in one of our following sections. So be okay. And it's okay if it's made you feel helpless, if it's made you feel hopeless. It's okay. Recognize that any response you're having to anything It's okay. It's a matter of just then how do you deal with it, right? So you always hear that statement, it's not about falling, it's about how you respond to that fall or whether or not you get up. There's all kinds of different variations to that thought or that idea or that quote about falling and getting up, and that is what it's about. So it's not saying don't feel helpless, don't feel hopeless, Don't feel pity, don't feel fear. It's just a matter of then what do you do with it to turn that, what we call bitches, into riches and use it in such a way as fuel to move yourself forward. Even if you're not directly impacted but you're kind of suffering from a degree of PTSD, because again, we all have it. I had a I had a tree fall in the front of my house. I just moved in the one that I'm in now in Atlanta, and I had just moved in to my house, uh, and about 3 months later— and I might have told you before if you're a regular listener— about 3 months later, I was sitting out at a restaurant down the street with some friends, and you could hear a generator explode. And you could kind of assume very quickly, because I'm surrounded— the whole community surrounded by trees— You could assume that it was a tree. And so we were all sitting there, and we were actually getting ready for a Madonna concert. So we were having a few beers before a Madonna concert. And I, you know, I happened to turn to my friend and went, "Oh, that sucks for somebody." And I got home, and I went in the back door, but I can— you can look out my front door 'cause it's glass. And I happened to look out the front door just to make sure the lights were on and we were gonna, you know, be able to leave the house safe and secure. And there's the tree all over my front of my— not my house, but on my front yard. I'm up on a hill, and it was my tree. And ever since then, I have a complete fear of wind and heavy rain, let alone hurricanes. And we, you know, we had some outskirts of a few of those storms. So we all suffer, you know, some post-traumatic experience as a result. Now, we certainly want to work on overcoming that. At the same time, we can't dismiss it and be hard on ourselves around it. So I just ask you to focus on identifying the impact that maybe these situations are having on you, and when we get back, we are going to discuss kind of how do you deal with the impact of the impact. And what, what can it be doing to you that you really definitely want to pay attention to. And then we're going to talk about things you could do about it. And when we, when we get back, we'll talk about all of that. We'll be right back.

You are listening to Shedding the Bitch Radio with Bernadette Boas. We are inspiring individuals around the globe to discover, confront, and shed their bitches of fear, insecurity, and negativity so they can create the riches in their career the career, business, and life they deserve. Be sure to check out Bernadette's book, Shedding the Corporate Bitch: Shifting from Bitch to Rich in Life and Business, available on Amazon and sheddingthebitch.com. We also want to thank our sponsors, TSR Consulting, who offers a broad range of tax services for small to corporate-sized clients. Go to TSRConsulting.com to learn more. Parker House Virtual Services, who provides virtual assistance and social media support for small to medium-sized businesses. Email Deborah Parker at deborahparker78@gmail.com for more information. To become a sponsor or advertiser on our program, email us at mediarelations@sheddingthebitch.com. Shedding the Bitch Radio airs every Tuesday at noon Eastern time. Be sure to go to blogtalkradio.com/shuttingthebitchradio and follow the program for all of the updates and announcements of our guests and show topics. Now let's return to Bernadette and Shedding the Bitch Radio.

Welcome back everyone. We are talking about kind of what you, what we all might be experiencing as a result of all of the Mother Nature tragedies that have gone on, as well as the human-created tragedies such as the Las Vegas massacre, and kind of taking some time for ourselves, for you, to kind of reflect on how are these things impacting you. How— and, and if they are impacting you, how are they being projected out? And there— and then as a result, what can you do so you can kind of safeguard yourself from especially the negative impacts that, you know, forget about it just being loss of sleep or feeling stressed, but all that amounts to really some debilitating and critical physical manifestations, whether it be heart attacks or strokes or breakdowns. It could be a number, a number of things. So I— we just talked about in the first section just really taking time to tap into how, if at all, you're being impacted by all of the onslaught of these experiences and these situations that are going on. And what do you do to safeguard yourself from really kind of taking them on and feeling almost in despair or hopeless being, you know, whether or not you're directed, you're impacted directly, or whether or not, you know, it's arm's distances away from you. I did have some very dear friends impacted by the Miami storm. There's so many I can't even keep up with who's who. I think it was Irma. And, you know, yet apart from that, didn't know anybody in the Las Vegas situation, didn't know anybody in Puerto Rico, don't know anybody in the Texas situation. And yet it just has really kind of, kind of created a lot of heaviness for me. And so I just thought it was important for us to take some time, really identify The influences that external situations have on ourselves, and then what can you do in order to overcome them. So even when it comes to, you know, really tapping in and identifying if you are having any impact of all those things, uh, how are they manifesting for you? For me, it's been sleepless nights. It's been a feeling of helplessness, like, what can I do? You know, again, apart from like simply writing a check, and yet some people can't even do that, or, you know, filling up a box of donations and sending them off, and some people can't even do that. So, you know, what— how is that feeling of helplessness impacting you? You know, is it stress, and that'll project, or anxiety, or feelings of depression or sadness? That'll all project out, um, not only on yourself but also the people around you. I found myself laying on the couch on a Saturday doing absolutely nothing, though I had a pile of work sitting in front of me, uh, and I just— there was nothing that was going to be able to get me motivated to, to address that work, uh, until I figured out why I was feeling so heavy when I really had nothing going on in my life that would have caused me to be kind of feeling that way. And I tapped into it this morning when there was more and more information coming out, out about this Las Vegas shooter, and it just set me to my knees. And I just had to kind of recognize that all of these things are, are impacting, are draining my energy, my my clarity, my motivation, and therefore, what are they doing to you and what can you do about it? And some people, however, you know, like we mentioned closer to the top of the hour, they're not taking it all on themselves. They're simply recognizing a situation where they can help. They're empathizing and sympathizing and being compassionate about the whole situation, and they're just simply diving in and they're volunteering, they're traveling across the country to offer their services. They're, you know, even just locally, wherever you are, they're, you know, smiling more or they're helping out a firefighter, you know, with a treat to a meal. I happened to, a few weeks ago, there was a few police officers in one of the local fast food restaurants and they were coming up behind me And so I just simply, you know, kind of told the woman to take care of anything that they were doing. Now, they had nothing to do with any of these situations going on around the country. However, you know, they do go out and they do take care of the community and the citizens, you know, even here in Atlanta. And so I was trying to kind of do my part through them. So, you know, however you're responding and reacting or feeling, be okay with it and recognize it, and also kind of take time to, as opposed to looking at all of those negative news briefings or Facebook posts or Twitter posts or even emails that you might receive, go out. I happened to spend some time, about 20 minutes earlier, looking up videos and looking up stories both from a print perspective as well as a video perspective, of the heroes, of the citizens that were jumping in and helping people, of the rescues that were going on, of the things that were really bringing the humanity back into the picture, because everything else was so dark. I recognized that I needed some light, and so there's that opportunity too. So, so from there, once you've kind of spent some time to really think about the impact that these situations may be having on you, and recognizing how they're being projected and how they're manifesting themselves, um, within yourself— mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally— then you can kind of let it go, as we say, shedding them here, and find ways that you can contribute in any way, shape, or form. And like I said, that might be just reaching out a hand to someone in the grocery store that might need help, or it could be someone that's, you know, behind you in a fast food drive-through and you decide to pay for them behind you, or it just could be that you smile at someone that you're, you know, not normally typically comfortable smiling to, or you go and volunteer locally, or you go across the country to see if you can help. I know California can use firefighters. Puerto Rico can use some construction and some manual labor support. So there's all kinds of ways where you can bring back and feel— and bring back your own motivation and energy and spirit. But be easy on yourself and allow yourself to experience whatever it is that you are experiencing. And then just decide, like we talked about, then just decide to what point Are you going to let that heaviness exist as opposed to translating it and turning it into energy and fuel of where you can then go out in the world and serve in whatever capacity, you know, you feel suitable for yourself and your— maybe your own situation that you're in? And then just always remember, if, if we could all do this each and every day each and every moment of every day, we might have a world that, as opposed to it being so bleak and heavy, it can be so uplifting. And that's simply the golden rule, you know, do unto others as you want done unto you. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Love and serve them the way you want to be loved and served. And be kind to one another. I'm not stealing Ellen's you know, closing comment. But that little comment is so transformative. Every time she closes out one of her shows, "Be kind to one another." What a beautiful concept. And, you know, some— for some people that lasts about 5 seconds from when she says it, and for others it's so transformative that it carries them through. Whatever the case might be, just remember we are all one in the same, and we're all connected from the heart. And hopefully that'll kind of let go of your— any heaviness you might be feeling, so you then can create whatever riches you want in your life. So for everybody here at Shedding the Bitch Radio, thank you for joining us today. Keep everyone in your prayers, and we'll talk to you right back here next Tuesday at noon Eastern time. Thanks everyone.

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