Betsy GuerraBilingual Keynote Speaker, Psychotherapist/Coach, Author, Leadership Training and Life Coach Certification

The secret to create strong bonds! #parenting #lifelessons

12 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, Betsy Guerra explains that secure attachment in children stems from caregivers consistently showing up and meeting basic needs, rather than from flawless parenting. She illustrates this with everyday examples—feeding a hungry baby and changing diapers—showing that when a child learns that a parent will be present and responsive, they develop a sense of security. Even if parents make mistakes, the reliability of their presence is what truly defines attachment, countering the myth that perfect caregiving is required for a child’s emotional well‑being.

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When babies were little, if they cried 'cause they were hungry and mom came and gave them the bottle of milk, they learned that mom was gonna feed them if they were hungry. So on and so forth, right? Like as time goes by, if you know that your parents are gonna show up, even if we as parents screw up or they screwed up as our parents, the fact that they were always there is ultimately what truly defines the attachment more than if they did it perfectly. If they showed up and changed the diaper perfectly, we don't have to be perfect as parents to provide secure attachment, because if not, we're all doomed. Secure attachment is more about the knowing that someone has my back.