Betsy Guerra breaks down Dan Siegel's 4 S's for secure attachment: Safe, Seen, Soothed, and Secure. Make someone feel safe to be vulnerable, seen and cared for, soothed when hurt, and confident the relationship survives conflict.
If you want to build a secure attachment, you are going to follow Dan Siegel's 4 S's. Safe— when you work on creating a safe space, you know that you can be vulnerable, you know that you can be honest, you can be yourself, you're going to be protected. I can share, I can cry, I can be. Then seen is about knowing that people care for you. Then if you want to create a secure attachment with someone, care for them. And then soothe is, you know that your person is going to be there when you're hurting. And then Lastly, secure. Trust that the person is coming back, showing up, getting your back, that eventually they'll come to terms with whatever you're arguing over. The help or the understanding or the compassion or the connection or the support is gonna come.
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