IT'S NOT YOU, It’s Your Trauma (Self Forgiveness Guide)

Welcome to this masterclass called Distinguishing You Versus PTSD. How to separate yourself from your PTSD and forgive yourself and rid yourself from the guilt and the shame that you feel from all the actions that you have taken because of your PTSD. Because people who have PTSD do wild and crazy things, and that can then think that you Are the thing that is wild and crazy, right? I know this has happened with me where my PTSD— and I know Kayleen felt this way as well— made me do things that I regretted, that— and that I thought were downright evil. Like, my entire life, you know, I thought yelling at people was bad. When I had PTSD, I would yell at people. When I, you know, didn't have my PTSD, before I had it, I thought breaking things was bad in front of other people. When I had PTSD, I would break a lot of things. Or punching holes in walls, I thought was absolutely crazy. When I had PTSD, I punched holes in walls. When I didn't have PTSD, I thought people who, you know, would shake and switch and, you know, out of fear when they got triggered, I thought they were crazy. But when I had PTSD, I did all those things. My body twitched, my body shook. If some people touched a certain part of my body, I would break down in tears because that's where I experienced some trauma. And that led me to a point where I thought that I was a fundamentally flawed person. I thought I was messed up. I thought I was the problem. I thought I was crazy. Actually, I was like, I am. I remember one point just like completely just getting overwhelmed with negative emotions to the point where I was breaking down and I was crying. My body was shaking and I was just huddled sitting down in a corner of my house. And I just remember like my body just kind of like shaking uncontrollably and like Even part of it, like, like my arm, my hand would twitch sometimes. And I just remember thinking to myself, oh my God, I am literally going insane. Like, I am literally crazy. And I remember having those thoughts and I truly believed it. I truly believed that I was going crazy. And I, this made me feel, I mean, very inferior. It made me feel very guilty for all the things that I did. And I felt a tremendous amount of shame and regret from all the things that I did because I believed that I was the problem. I believed that all the things that I went through fundamentally changed who I was as a person permanently. I believed that even though I had other conflicting beliefs that allowed me to not give up and ultimately believe that I had huge parts of myself That believed that I was a flawed person, that I was a messed up person. And I know that Kayleen had this kind of same realization too. She would call herself a monster. She's like, I can't believe I am such a monster. I can't believe I keep doing all these things and yelling at people and screaming at people and, you know, losing my mind. But she wasn't a monster. And I wasn't crazy. It wasn't me. It was my PTSD. It wasn't Kayleen. It wasn't her as a person. It's her PTSD and the trauma that she went through and how that impacted her. And why can I say that? Why can I confidently say that it wasn't my— like, I was, I was responsible for it ultimately, right? Because that's a balance that we all need to have and understand in In creating this separation between us and PTSD, realizing that, hey, it wasn't our fault because we were traumatized, we were hurt, and that affected us in certain ways and caused us to act in certain ways. But it is our responsibility to resolve all the problems that the trauma has created in our life. We are not permanently flawed. You are not permanently flawed. It is your responsibility, but it's not your fault. Things and the effects that PTSD have is not your fault, but it is your responsibility. Once you become aware that this is a problem, once you become aware of all these problems of PTSD, of the anger, of all these other things, it then becomes your responsibility to fix it. And it's the balance between the two, between understanding and forgiving your past self for doing the best that you could in the past, and at the same time holding yourself responsible. It's holding these two seemingly conflicting ideas in your mind at the same time that allows you to solve all these problems and move forward. Because if you just put all the blame on your shoulders, you will beat yourself up. And you'll be stuck in this mode of victimhood because you're blaming. And blaming is a surefire sign of a victim, of a victim mindset. And that includes if you're blaming yourself. If you're overly hard on yourself, you're turning yourself into a victim. Now, on the other side, if you're blaming PTSD, if you're blaming trauma, if you're putting all your power into the things that happened in your past, if you're giving that all your power, You too are also becoming a victim and victimizing yourself. So you have to find the middle ground between the two, where you take responsibility for what you are responsible for and not take responsibility for the things you're not responsible for, and forgiving yourself and accepting and coming to peace that you did the best that you could. And when you're able to do that, you are able to accept your past. Come to peace with it. Maybe not completely, because it does take work. It does take processing to get to that point. But you're able to come to peace, to bring things down, you know, to reduce the charge, reduce the stress to a point where you can actually start taking tangible and constructive steps forward because you're taking responsibility, but you're not blaming. Right? So how can I say that PTSD— it's PTSD that did all these things? Maybe you've yelled, maybe you've gotten angry, maybe you've been abusive to people because of the trauma you went through in your past. How can I say that's on PTSD and it's not you that's flawed? Especially maybe if you've been like this for your entire life, because we have people like that in this program. Kayleen was like that. She had no other reference in her life. Where she was quote unquote normal. Her entire life, she believed that her hurt self was her as a person. Her whole life, she believed that all of the things that she did were because she was— because she was a bad person. And it wasn't until she realized the effects of PTSD and how PTSD manifests How trauma manifests? Was she able to separate herself and be able to see the hurt, the hurt version of herself and her true self? So there are parts of you that are hurt, and because they were hurt, they cause you to act out in certain ways as defense mechanisms, as protective mechanisms. The anger that you have, that you might have. It's a defense mechanism to prevent you from getting hurt in the past. Even for people who are abusive, they're abusive because that is the way that they defend themselves. That's the way that they learned. And I'm not— and I'm not justifying abuse. I'm explaining it because there's no reason to ever accept abuse from anybody. I want to make that clear. But the reason why many people do abuse is because they were abused. And the way that they are, or this part of themselves, this part of their psyche was formed, was to do this thing. If I do this thing, if I get abusive, if I get angry, if I get controlling and start to manipulate these people, then I won't get manipulated. Then I won't get hurt in the way that I used to get hurt. And it's not conscious because if it was conscious, people would Likely change. But the problem with this is that they get into this victim mode on either side, believe that their actions are just, and then they never change. And they're never truly aware of what, like, what they're doing or why they're doing it. They never, they're not aware of that cycle and they can't break themselves out of it because they're unwilling to be honest with themselves and to self, self-reflect. Everybody that goes through trauma, everybody that's diagnosed with PTSD has, has, has been through trauma. Let me back up. Everybody who's been diagnosed with PTSD has gone through trauma, correct? We can all agree with that, right? And basically what PTSD— basically what the diagnosis of PTSD is, is a cluster of symptoms that people have. A Common, predictable cluster of symptoms that people get when they experience trauma. Get that? The connection there is humans, when exposed to traumatic experiences, act in these ways, right? So humans, normal human, Plus trauma, plus trauma. Drop my marker here. There we go. Equals Equals anger, abuse, fear, anxiety, flashbacks, right? So all these symptoms, this cluster of symptoms that is diagnosed as PTSD. Now PTSD is just one label. Because as you've probably noticed, experts, psychologists, psychiatrists get this diagnosis wrong all the time. But there are many different diagnoses, diagnoses, whether it's PTSD, CPTSD, bipolar, borderline personality disorder, GAD, general anxiety disorder, whatever it is. Most of the time, almost, I would say 99.9% of the time, it has a root because a person experienced a trauma and they got these symptoms. So let me ask you, you have the person, you have you, and then you have the trauma, and then you act out in all these ways, right? You do all these things. You get angry, you punch the hole in the wall, you yell at somebody, you're abusive towards somebody. Is this your fault? Is it attributed 100% to you? Or is it largely attributed to the trauma that you experienced? Is it because you are fundamentally flawed? No. As a person down to your core, or is it because you've been hurt? You've been hurt, and that's okay. And one of the big things to realize and to acknowledge within yourself Is to see that you've been hurt. Because how often do we go through our lives and just don't acknowledge any of our pain because we don't think it's worthy enough of being acknowledged? That we're so hard on ourselves, we don't give ourselves credit? Probably quite a bit. I've seen it a lot. I've seen it a lot with a lot of people. A lot of clients acknowledge that you've been through something hard and tell yourself that you are not a flawed person, that you don't deserve all that beating that you're giving yourself if you're giving yourself that, if this is all a problem for you. Right. And I know this is a common problem for a lot of people. Some of you might not be dealing with this. Some of you might be dealing with this to a lesser degree than others, but this is something I've seen with almost everybody to one degree or another. Sometimes it's been so extreme where people literally hate themselves so much for what they've done that they self-harm in various ways, physically and psychologically. But you don't really think about that, do you? You don't think about psychological self-harm. Where you hate yourself so much to the point where you are just beating yourself up all the time and just ripping open the scars again and again and again, ripping off that scab and never letting something heal. Never truly forgiving yourself, never truly loving yourself, never truly gaining enough perspective on yourself to say, hey, I went through something hard and I did the best I could. And when you can do that, when you can gain this separation and you can gain this perspective on yourself, that's when you could start to bring love. That's when you can start to bring healing. One of the biggest fundamental foundational things for healing is love. Love towards yourself. Maybe you're lucky to have somebody in your life who loves you, or maybe you're lucky enough to have had the experience of somebody in your life, even if they're not still around, who has loved you. I'm sure all of us have felt this. Somebody tells you something, but you don't believe it yourself. It's like you can have somebody who cares about you, who loves you, who believes in you, Who supports you. But you, if you don't believe it yourself, you won't even allow that compliment to come into you and affect you at all. That's because at the end of the day, if you don't believe in yourself, if you don't see that you are worthy of love yourself and tell yourself that you are worthy of love yourself and actually express that love to yourself through your own thoughts and your own actions, That doesn't matter what anybody else says. Because so many people then again get into that victim mode where they're— they just wait around for somebody else to save them, wait around for somebody else to tell them that they're good enough. They say, I never had anybody who told me who truly loved me or truly cared about me. And that's sad. It is. It's like, it's, it's awful. I don't think Any child. I think every child is deserving of a good parent. And unfortunately, that's not how it works. So not everybody gets those types of inputs. But even then, it has to come from you. The love has to come from you. You have to see and do this work yourself and come to the conclusion that you are worthy, that you aren't fundamentally flawed, that you aren't fundamentally broken, that it's all about this equation, something happening to you, and it hasn't permanently changed you. How can I say that? One, because I've, I've gone through it. I've helped Kayleen get through it, and she had the worst PTSD I've ever seen out of anybody in my entire life, bar none. She was able to get through it. So many other people in this community have been able to get through it. So if the problem is not you, the problem is the trauma. And when you heal the trauma, which you can, and as you heal from the trauma, what you will realize and what you will see and what you will experience is more of you, more of this pure loving part of yourself, this genuine part of yourself where the anger goes away, the abuse goes away, the fear goes away, the anxiety goes away, and the flashbacks go away, the nightmares, all the other symptoms that you have goes away because you deal with the trauma and you focus and you take responsibility for yourself. Ooh. And when you do all this, this is what's happening when you do all this, right? So all this, all, all this stuff that I've been explaining right now has just been me trying to present to you a different argument, a different perspective to hopefully challenge the current beliefs that you have in your mind. You might think you're unworthy. I'm giving you an argument that you're not. You might think you're messed up, you're broken, you're crazy, you're insane. I'm giving you an argument that you're not. So I'm attempting to change some fundamental beliefs and give you some reasons for why you aren't these things. But ultimately, just as with self-love, you are going to have to identify these core beliefs about yourself and do the work to change them. Belief change is one of the foundations to processing trauma. I talk about this all the time. It's all about changing fundamental beliefs and releasing emotions. Every single successful processing tool on the planet, any modality that works, you can analyze it and you distill it down to the first principles. And it comes down to these 2 things. You're changing fundamental beliefs. that were created from the trauma, and you're releasing emotions as you do that. You're allowing your body to express and release the pressure, release the emotions. Those 2 things, those are the fundamentals. So if you have faulty beliefs about yourself, you believe you are unworthy, you believe you're not good enough, you believe you are deserving of all the guilt and all the shame and all the beatings that you might, may or may not be giving yourself, And all the self-harm that you may or may or may not be giving yourself. Like I said, you might be in a different place than others, but those are the beliefs that you are going to have to identify, counter, and change. And you are going to have to win those arguments with yourself. And when I say arguments, I mean it in the logical sense. Not the argument like somebody would have with their their spouse, right? It's like what is the logical argument? What is the logical reasoning? So because if if if I say it's it's it's an interesting kind of exercise. If I say tell yourself to say pick like like do you believe that you're unworthy? Do you believe you're not? Lovable? Do you believe you're broken? Do you believe you're crazy? Any of these things that I've kind of addressed today, I want you to pick one that kind of resonates with you. And then I'm going to say, so let's say if you thought that you don't deserve love, or I'll say, I'll do this one because it's probably the most common. If you believe that you're not worthy, whether it's of love or that you're not good enough or any of these things, What if I told you that you are worthy, that you are good enough? You probably have a part of your mind that says, no, Brad, I'm not. And guess what? Here are all the reasons why. Here's my argument. And to change that, well, the first thing is you have to become aware of that. To even change that, you have to be aware that when you— when I say you are worthy, you are good enough, you are lovable, you are not crazy, all of these things, You have to be aware if you get any pushback, that is revealing to you the belief that you currently hold and all of the reasonings and references that are supporting that belief. Because sometimes I say to people, hey, you have to challenge this belief. Like we do some work together and we come down to this belief where they have a core belief that's I'm not worthy. And then I say, okay, you have to start to work on building the belief that you are worthy, that you are good enough. And we come to that conclusion together, that that's the belief that they need to work on. Sometimes people will come back to me and say, but Brad, I am not worthy. I am not good enough. I abused, I abused, you know, my spouse. I abused my kids. I yelled at my family. I broke all these things. I'm so clearly unworthy. How could I ever possibly believe that I'm worthy after going through all these things? Then I say, well, that's the work. All you're doing right there is giving me your current line of reasoning to why you believe that you are unworthy. And that is the work, challenging that. So if somebody said, I'm worthy because— I'm unworthy because I yelled. I yelled at my kids, whatever it was. You would have to challenge that. You would have to say, you have to come to peace with yourself, forgive yourself, and reinterpret that yelling as, hey, yes, that wasn't right, but I did the best I could. And I truly am truly sorry for that. And I forgive myself for that, and I will never do that again. And I'm going to do everything I can to make amends and make things better and ensure that I never do that to anybody else for the rest of, for the rest of my life. And that's all I can control right now. I accept that I did that in the past. I forgive myself for doing that in the past. But I choose to move forward and to love that part of myself that made a mistake and to move forward with love and not hate towards myself. And all of that, all of everything that I just said right there, it's just me disconfirming that old line of reasoning. Me telling that part all of the reasons why that this isn't true. It's not true. I need to forgive myself. I need to do all these things. I will do these things. I'm disconfirming the reasons why I'm unworthy. And that's the work. Just like you will be resistant at first. You have these beliefs and they've been ingrained in you for so long that when you go to challenge them, you are going to get pushback and you're going to, your mind is going to feed you all the reasons why. But if you're not aware that your mind is just presenting you your current programming and that all, and you don't know, and you don't believe that all programming can be changed, then you will just be stuck with that belief. Not because that belief cannot be changed, but you are not aware that you even hold that belief and you don't, you don't believe that you can change that belief. The belief that you need to have before you change any belief is that you can change any belief, that every belief can be changed, and that the way that you are thinking right now is caused by a certain belief system that you have. And that belief system is created by this programming that has been created and all the reasons and all the references that are supporting those beliefs. All programming. It's just programming. It's just data. You can change it if you choose to change it and do the work and challenge your thinking, which is not easy, especially if it's been ingrained for a long time. If you have all these negative thoughts coming in, you're going to have to challenge each and every one of them. It's going to be the hardest in the beginning. That's when the resistance is going to be the greatest. That also excites me where it's like, yeah, bring it on. Let's go. So you versus PTSD. Do you still believe you're a bad person? Do you still not see that you are separate from your trauma, that your symptoms are separate from you, that you are ultimately responsible for solving these problems, but the reason why you have these problems is not your fault, and that you are deserving of forgiveness? And that you are going to have to make yourself believe that. Some people don't like when I say that too. It's like, you're gonna have to make yourself believe that. Sometimes you got to force some positive thoughts into your mind. Sometimes you got to say things you don't believe until you believe them. It's true. The alternative is you live with your faulty belief system for the rest of your life, which is not fun. It's not fun. Real quick though, I want to talk about how to utilize protectors with this, right? Guilt. Like, so if you go through this and you feel there's a part of you that feels unworthy, or there's a part that feels that you don't deserve forgiveness, there's a part that feels guilty. If you feel a tremendous amount of guilt for all the things you've done because of the trauma and PTSD, I'm gonna walk you through what to do. One, you have to become aware of the emotion. Become aware of the shame, become aware of the guilt, whatever it is. Isolate that. Identify where you're holding it in your body. So if you feel guilt, maybe it's a tightness in your chest, in the center of your chest. I want you to identify that. What's the emotion? And identify where it is in your body. From there, step 2 is to separate from the emotion. You can close your eyes and imagine this tension in your body. You can like visualize it. I would visualize it sometimes as light leaving my body or a dark energy or whatever it is, but in some way gaining some separation from that and seeing, seeing this part of you right outside of you. And you can give it a visual representation as well. So you can give it some kind of, some, some kind of a form. And again, it could just be light. It could just be energy. But it could also be a younger version of yourself. It could also be a knight. It could be any— it could be literally anything, any type of visual representation of this emotion. I had one where it was a person getting crushed by a 10-ton weight. I've had one that was in like a torture device. I like— I've had a bunch of crazy ones, but it can be literally anything, right? You gain some separation from it. And you, if you give it a visual representation, it's much easier to see that. So you have the emotion in your body, you get the separation, and these are just the fundamentals of protectors. And what you'll learn as you go through the, the, the program and you utilize the processing tools is you'll actually realize that all these, like, people ask me, it's like, well, what's the, what's the solution to depression? What's the solution to guilt? Shame, anger. If you plug all— you can plug all of those problems into the processing tools because the processing tools, they don't solve one specific problem. They are problem-solving frameworks to solve any problem, emotional problem specifically. So you plug any emotional problem into any one of these different problem-solving frameworks, they solve them in different ways and they address, you know, the trauma from different angles. That's why we give you multiple tools. But what you realize is you might wonder why, why don't we talk so much about resolving guilt? And why don't I do a masterclass on healing flashbacks or this specific symptom or this specific symptom or this specific symptom? It's because you can take any of those, plug it in to any one of the problem-solving frameworks, AKA processing tools, and get the result. And that's why this program is successful is because we don't try to take out all of the problems and then give you specific answers for each problem. If we were to do that, the program would be incredibly long, unwieldy, and extremely confusing. It's like with this, you just need to learn 4 tools because we teach you how to think. We teach you how to solve problems. We don't give you the solutions. Right. So back to protectors. Step 1, find it in your body. Step 2, separate, give it a visual representation. 3, approach it with love and understanding, realizing that all of these symptoms, all the emotions, all the symptoms that you experience, like I said earlier, they're defense mechanisms, they're protection mechanisms. They are all happening here to help you. They are just misguided. Okay. You get angry to protect yourself from a past pain. Somebody abuses because they are protecting themselves from the past pain. Now, I'm not justifying these things again, because I have to say that. I have to say that like every time, just for myself even. That fear is there to protect you from past pain. The anxiety, the flashbacks, all of these symptoms are here trying to protect you from something. Even brain fog, it's trying to protect you from something. The association trying to protect you from something. So all these parts of you, regardless of what emotion it is, the guilt is trying to protect you from something. It has a positive intent. That's why we call it protectors. So knowing that as a fundamental, after you separate from it and you, you give it that visual representation, you then approach it. You approach that part with love and understanding. That it's doing its best and it is trying to help you. So this whole conversation right here that I've had with you, you were trying to do your best. I was talking about you, like you did the best you could after going through and experiencing a trauma. You did the best with all these symptoms. And this is just taking it one step further. It's, it's taking that concept of you doing the best you could, but now we're talking about this part. Is doing the best that it could. It's still a conversation between you and you, but you want to approach every part of you with that love, with that understanding, with that compassion. Understanding that it's, it's doing something to protect you. It has a positive intent. It's trying to protect you. And that's important. That's why I said earlier on too, one of the fundamentals to healing is being, being able to gain separation from yourself, give yourself compassion, Give yourself self-love, self-love and self-compassion. That's why we have it early on in the program. That's why it's one of the very first things that we do. Because if you don't have that foundation, that's why we teach early on in the program. If you don't have the foundation of self-love and self-compassion, and then you try to do any sort of internal work, you are going to be very self-critical of yourself. Likely, it's going like you're going to become aware of all these flaws that you have. Are you going to become aware of all of these emotions and all these causes? And the tendency will be to beat yourself up, to feel guilty, to just let everything kind of spiral out of control in a very negative way. So self-love and self-compassion really is a fundamental foundational skill and mindset to every aspect of healing. Approaching yourself with love and understanding. Is vital, and I mean that in the very sense of the word. It's vital. It's important. It's essential. It's essential. It's essential. It's essential because without it, imagining imagine okay you have this part and imagine this imagine this part that you're trying to speak to is another person, right? So you have this this part of you and we we're imagining that's another person. Now imagine you go up to that person and you go up to them and be like hey. Why the hell were you getting angry? What the hell's wrong with you, man? You're not supposed to do that. What's the other person gonna do? They're either either gonna leave. They're getting mad at you back. They're gonna fight back. They're gonna be defensive. They're going to shut down any one of those things, but they're going to pull away from you, right? Their their walls are going to go up or they're going to pull away from you. Same thing happens internally with protectors. If you approach parts of yourself. With anger, with contempt, trying to guilt them, trying to tell them they did everything wrong. What are they going to do? They're going to get defensive or pull away from you. And what are they not going to do? They're not going to share why they did what they did. They're not going to explain to you how they're feeling. They're not going to tell you what the problem is. The only way to gain that trust with yourself, because that's one thing that some people, that a lot of people talk about, so they don't feel like they trust themselves. And it's no wonder because you probably treat yourself pretty poorly. The relationship that you have with yourself is probably pretty poor. And that's just being objective. Like my, the relationship I had with myself was very poor, objectively speaking. And I didn't trust myself and parts of me didn't trust myself because why would they trust me if I'm just going to be A jerk to them. It's like you just imagine again this person coming to you, trying to be vulnerable with you, and then you judge them or you're angry with them. It doesn't make any sense. Why would this person trust you if all you do is judge them and get angry with them? See, love is fundamental. Approaching this part with love, with compassion, is fundamental and essential in the true meaning of essential. It cannot. You cannot heal without that self-love and that self-compassion. You might think it's some like airy fairy thing, like oh self-love blah blah blah. But it's like hey, what do all children want? They want to be loved. Like if you think about most a lot of our motivations, it's love. Why? Like why? Why do we get hurt in a lot of cases because of lack of love? Why do we hurt ourselves? Lack of love. Love is healing. And we, again, we have to be the ones that give it to ourselves. And when you have this conversation with your protector, with this part, that is you literally taking the action of expressing love to a part of yourself. You are building that self-love within yourself. Okay, I think I've harped on self-love enough here. So when you identify in your body too, you separate from it, you give it some, some sort of image, visual image. Step 3, you approach it with love. And 3, you talk to it and you ask why. Why do you feel this way? Why is my favorite question. Do you want to know why? Because why reveals all of the reasons behind something. Why? So if you ask your part, why do you feel this way? They will give you all the reasons Maybe not all of them in the beginning, but they will give you all the reasons to why they believe something, why they feel something. They will give you all the reasons. Do you get what I'm saying? You're trying to do so. If your part has this feeling and you ask, why are you feeling this way? They will give you all the reasons. This is what I was doing to why they feel this way. Does this look familiar? If you've been through the program, it will. If you haven't gotten this far yet, obviously won't. This is the belief table, right? Every feeling that you have, every emotion that you have stems from a belief. So it's very easy to swap out feeling here. And then ask yourself, what is the belief here? But you can start with feeling as well. What are you feeling? Or why— sorry, why are you feeling this way? It'll give you all the reasons for why you're feeling that way. And then you can identify the belief and start breaking those references. But really, when you ask why, what it does is it reveals all of the reasons why this problem exists. It gives you all the data. All the things that you need to work on and change and challenge. It's beautiful. It's beautiful. Beautiful. Here's something that we don't get inside of the program. May or may not blow your mind. References can have sub-references. I don't even know how to draw this. Legs can have legs. I don't even know if you can see this. Meaning, and legs of legs can have legs. Whoa! Legs, legs of legs can have legs, and then legs of legs of legs can have legs, and then legs of legs of legs of legs can have legs. And then legs of legs of legs of legs of legs can have legs. I won't do it again. So my point here is that references, you can go one layer deep with references, right? So you can ask this part of you, why do you feel this way? And it'll give you one reference. Guess what? You can ask why again. And you can find the reasons for why this happened, why this reference happened, why does this affect you in this way? And you go a layer deeper and a layer deeper and a layer deeper. This is how you can trace things down to the root causes or the root reasons to why you believe something or why you feel something. And I know that I started with you versus PTSD, and now I'm going into a masterclass of processing and next level processing stuff. But really, it all does tie together. Like every one of my masterclasses, I could end in something like this. And I won't do that with every masterclass. Don't worry. But every once in a while when it just goes right and things fit in, I will go down this road. So let's recap again for the protectors. You identify it in your body, you separate from it, give it a visual image, you approach it with love, and you ask why. Why do you feel this way? And you can keep asking why. Like I said, down the leg, down the leg, leg, leg, the leg of the leg, whatever. Yeah. And then once it shares with you, you want to make sure you express love to it. Be like, hey, thank you so much for sharing that. I love you. I'm here to help you. I'm here to solve all these problems with you. We may not have a solution for this right now, but we are going to figure this out together and I'm going to help you get to a better place. And that's the conversation you want to be having with these parts. You want to act like that coach or that guide. Some people say parent, but I don't know. I think it's different than a parent, but if that's helpful for you, that could be helpful. But that's it.