Brad Hart argues that relationships either expand your capabilities and opportunities or constrict them. Moving from asking "what's in it for me?" to "what can I do for others?" opens doors; self-interest closes them.
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The goal of any relationship should be to expand, to expand capabilities, to expand what's possible, to expand opportunities, to expand networks, whatever it is. Right. And any time you choose to stand in the way of that, you're going to constrict. Right. It's like you're either going to expand or you're going to constrict. It's like a law of the universe. So if you want to expand what's possible for you, you know, you got to get over this notion of, like, what's in it for me? All the time. That's where people's heads are usually at, is like, everybody's tuned into a radio station called wiifm. What's in it for me? And they need to be tuned into the radio station of what can I do for others?