In this motivational monologue, the speaker reflects on the past two years of personal change, acknowledging that the original plan they crafted failed to materialize as expected. Despite the setback, they achieved significant milestones: losing 45 pounds, pivoting their business, and gaining the freedom to travel. The speaker attributes this progress to three core practices. First, they transformed their inner dialogue by clarifying true desires, questioning the purpose behind goals, and redefining what success looks like, which lifted a psychological weight. Second, they embraced a slower, more deliberate pace, recognizing that rushing undermines sustainable growth and that allowing things to unfold naturally accelerates long‑term results. Third, they cultivated compassionate self‑accountability, balancing honest self‑assessment with kindness, and using setbacks as opportunities to adjust patterns rather than self‑criticism. The talk concludes with a call to take stock of one’s worth, adjust speed, and practice self‑care, emphasizing that progress is a journey rather than a race.
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As humans, we want different things. We want to know what's going to happen. We want to know how we're going to get there. We want to be able to create a plan and follow through on that plan. And yet all of these plans that we're making may not actually come together in the way that we think it will. That was the case for me. The last 2 years I've spent thinking I can create a plan that is going to come together in the way that I think it should. And it didn't. And yet I got to my destination. I'm not there yet, but I got to a point to where I can actually celebrate. What am I talking about? I'm talking about celebrating 45 pounds of weight loss. I'm talking about pivoting in my business and working with different people and doing different things. I'm talking about being able to be free and travel and go and do different things that I haven't been able to do before. So I had to undo the way that I was thinking in order to make this work. Well, there's 3 things that really mattered. The first one is actually changing the dialogue, changing the inner dialogue that actually helps us to see into ourselves and know what it is that we want. What do we really, really want? What is the ultimate desire? Why do you want that thing? And is it actually going to serve us in the way that we think we are and what we need? See, I had to go back and I had to redefine all those things. And once I did, it was like a weight that lifted off of my body. And I was able to actually see new things, new ways of living, and understanding and defining of what It meant to be skinny. It's almost like I had to go slower in order to go faster and understanding that I didn't have to fit all these things in in order to make everything come together. See, it's not a race. It's, it's a journey. I know that one thing is for certain, and that's the second thing. As fast as we think we need to go, it's also a good idea to slow down and watch it unfold. And just think for a second about whether this is really serving us. It's incredibly important to know that you can slow down and it's going to make a difference in your entire life. And the third thing is being accountable to yourself. See, it doesn't serve us if we actually say we're going to do something and we don't do it. It's going to happen. And getting down on ourselves and using that voice inside of our head that says, why didn't we get that done, is also not going to serve ourselves. So seeing it and embracing that side of us And saying, it's okay, let's move forward from here. And then changing the pattern. So those are the 3 things that really made a difference in my life. And it took me a long time to undo the things that were, well, making it harder for me to get to where I am today. I know that by actually taking stock of what it is that you deserve, how fast or slow you move, And how to be accountable to those things and being okay when you don't make them or you don't reach them and giving yourself the loving care that it takes to say, it's all right, I'm enough, and I'll get there.
