Day 208: Don't be nice...

So day 208 is definitely a nuance. People could take this the wrong way, you know, don't be nice. It's different than being kind, you know, so. And again, we have probably talked about it before, but it's worth reminding ourselves that there are leaders who are tough and there are leaders who are tender, and. And we say it's easier to become tougher than it is to become tender. So a lot of the tender leaders who care and they're trying to please everybody and keep everybody happy, and they're nice to everybody, they lose out, right, because they're going to be taken advantage of, and nice leaders will get walked all over. You got to learn how to be tough. And that toughness comes in many different ways, shapes and forms. What I found was that I didn't like to be tough on people, but just by simply telling the truth, you could be perceived as very tough if you can get into this discipline, this habit of telling people the truth early and often. And the nuance also is that if you're wrong, you repair. When you screw up, you circle back. You just take responsibility for the times that you mess up when your truth isn't true anymore. You know, I always say, you know, just because you think it's true doesn't make it so. You could be wrong. It's your truth. And there's always another side to the story, and there's always some kind of surprise that can kind of hit you out of left field that makes you realize you were wrong. You got to be able to own that. And that's how you get people to run through walls for you when they see that you're human, that you're not going to be stubborn, that you can take responsibility and repair when needed. And that's why we say in both the lead, the leaders are master repair men, because they're just in the constant mode of repairing damage. Things they said, mixed messages they've sent, the chaos they've created. And so don't be nice. Don't, don't mistaken that with being kind, and just tell the truth. Tell people the truth early, often, and people are going to think you're not so nice, and that's okay. You don't have to do it with such an edge again, you don't want to create friction, and you don't want to come off disingenuous. You just want to tell the truth and don't be scared to tell people the truth. And you don't have to be in a position of authority to do that. And you may get people not like you. And you got to be okay with that. And I always say you should care what people think. Hopefully you can finish the sentence, but not that much.