Day 225: Defining failure success…

I think it's pretty important that you define this for yourself and put it in your worldview. What could be more important than knowing how you would define failure and success? You know, you always hear people say that they don't look at failure as a failure. I always think it's really funny. I don't care if you learn from the failure or not. A failure is a failure. You know, I've failed in many things in the past, and I have no problem saying that. The question is, are you learning from your failures? This is. This is a belief. This is about a mindset. In the. In the book, when he, he. Chet mentions a fixed mindset picks easier targets to avoid the ultimate failure, and the growth mindset picks stretch targets to avoid the ultimate failure, which is not learning so good, right? Think about that. It doesn't matter if you fail. It matters if you didn't learn from it. There's nothing worse than repeating the failure. To me, that. That's the real. That's a real failure. You know, we used to get sued in my company all the time because we were credit reporting on people's credit reports, and people would just file lawsuits. And a lot of times it was because of a really stupid error on the part of my staff. Maybe they forgot to mark an account disputed, or maybe they forgot to follow up with someone or document something. And I never made a big deal out of it. I always used it as an example so that it didn't happen again. So, yeah, I mean, it was definitely a failure when they messed up, but it was a mistake. But as long as it never happened again, as long as that person never did that again and repeated it, you know, I mean, that's the way to learn. And I think, you know, that mindset of how you define what failure looks like in your life, how it shows up and then what you do as a result of it, that says everything about you and your mindset and your worldview and who you are as a leader and be able to live that so that your team sees that from you when you stumble, when you fall, when you make a mistake, you know, when you learn something new. So, you know, people who tend to be down on themselves when they make a mistake and they're scared and they failed, and they sort of kind of go dark versus someone who is transparent, vulnerable and. And takes responsibility and proactively shares what they learned so that everybody can benefit from this person's mistake. When leaders can do that, that is rare. Very few will do it. And it says so much about their humility and so much about their ability to lead and to show people that they're human, that they make mistakes. I used to tell my team that I made more mistakes than they could ever make. That was unfortunately true. But I think being able to just share that with them made them more comfortable when they made a mistake. Right. And I think too many leaders feel that they need to put off this vibe that they're perfect, that they don't make mistakes because they don't want people to not respect them. And I think that's just. It's the wrong mindset. So define failure and success for yourself. Put that in your worldview and then live it. Live it and be very deliberate and very clear how you define it. There's lots of ways to define it. So make sure you use your ands, your howevers, and just play with it. Have fun kind of writing that out so that when it shows up in your life, you can act accordingly.