Chad Silverstein says leaders shouldn't trust raw emotions when deciding. Surround yourself with people who calm you down, measure backwards to see progress instead of chasing an ideal, and know your emotional default so you can preload better responses in a crisis.
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So we've talked about a little bit about how you can't trust your emotions. And sometimes we'll make mistakes when we're in an emotional state. It's definitely not a time to react to things and to people when you're emotional about something. But it's incredible as someone in a leadership role, you're going to deal with emotions that other people can't relate to. If you're the head of a system or you have a business, you're going to be faced with challenges that most people can't even comprehend. I mean, if you're responsible for people's payroll and you can't make payroll, if you're, you know, you've built a business and you might, or at the risk of losing it, you know, people can't really understand what that feels like. And there are times where it can feel like that, but yet it's the furthest thing from that. And I definitely experienced this a few times in my, in my, in my business. And there is this feeling of freak out. You freak out. This is why, why you need a builder. This is why you need people in your life who can help you calm the storm when it hits hard, because your emotions trick you and you can't trust your emotions. And it's important to look at the facts. A lot of times you have to look backwards to look at the facts. You know, when I talked about the gap trap recently, you know, in one of the previous days, it's important to always measure backwards, because if you measure against the ideal, your goals, your vision that's made up, you're going to kind of compare the distance from where you are to where you want to be, and it's not going to feel so good. If you look back and see where you came from, you can see that that'll give you energy because you've made progress. And a lot of times it's easy for us to kind of wipe the facts right under the rug because we're so focused on why we're feeling emotional, because we just lost the client, we just lost a key player. You know, something just changed in our industry, and it changed everything. It happens. It's part of business. And most entrepreneurs and leaders understand this doesn't change the fact that it's not hard when it happens. And sometimes it can feel like everything is going to be, like, gone. And I had one experience in my company where I definitely felt like I was going to lose everything at one point. And it taught me a valuable lesson that your emotions, they can trick you. It doesn't mean it can't happen. Just means that you have to be aware of the fact that just because you're going through a hard time and you're feeling the emotional pull, you have to kind of slow down and you have to look at the reality of your situation. So make sure you have people in your life that can help you come off the edge of the cliff. And things look really dark. And look, if they are really dark, you got to face reality anyways, so you might as well not freak out and catch the emotional state that you have a tendency to move towards. Sometimes it's more stoic, sometimes it's more emotional, sometimes it's more reactive. Everybody's different. Know yours and preload the response and build the awareness.
