A short YouTube monologue by Chad Silverstein arguing that effective leaders should be transparent, vulnerable, and authentic. He recommends leaders show their humanity (share appropriately personal details, remove the "mask"), which builds trust and immediate positive feedback from teams; he also notes balance is required—oversharing can be counterproductive, but for stoic leaders, opening up even slightly can have outsized impact.
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So here we go again. Leaders are connectors. And I believe that one of the most powerful qualities you can have as a leader is to be able to speak from your heart, to be transparent and vulnerable, not worry so much about it looking like a weakness and letting people know that you're human. I think people tend to fear the boss for a reason. I think people play into the power and authority position that they have. And I think knowing this upfront and being able to fight through it by being more you, authentically you, whenever you get an opportunity to talk to your team, stand up in front of everyone, share something, and even if that means a little personal, there is something to be said about keeping the right secrets, but there's also something to be said about wearing your heart on your sleeve and letting people kind of inside a little bit more than you normally would. This is how people buy in. They buy into people that they trust. They buy into people that are real. When I was interviewing people, I would always try to find people that were genuine that I could believe in and believe that they were being believable whenever they were telling me whatever they were telling me. And I think, you know, we tend to wear a mask and leaders need to take the mask off. People don't want to work for people and work with people that are wearing a mask. You know, the worst thing you can do is make people not know who you are and wonder who's showing up today. It's the worst thing you can do. People, people who are fearful of their boss because they don't know if they're going to blow up or if they're going to kind of put their arm around them. You want consistency. And there's something really powerful about leaders that share. There's a balance. There's no question there's a balance. And it's a lot easier if you are someone who is comfortable sharing and transparent to kind of pull back a little bit if you're oversharing, it's really hard for someone who's closed up and not comfortable with it to start to open up. But at the end of the day, it's just something you have to do and you probably will get feedback right away. And if you're an individual who tends to be more stoic, more factual, believes that, you know, you have a professionalism at work that tells you that, you know, your worldview states that you shouldn't be so transparent, you shouldn't be vulnerable. There are certain times where it will work to your benefit to share and you'll see immediate feedback. People will come up to you, they will give you feedback. They're not expecting it from you. The biggest wins are from the people who don't do it, and then they do it. People who are always wearing their heart on the sleeve. Sometimes it can be too much and people expect it because that's the way you're wired. But someone who's more closed off and standoffish and more stoic opens up a little bit and shares, that can have a huge, huge impact on a company overnight. And I think, you know, you could use that to your advantage to build trust. It's definitely, definitely a strategy, and it's definitely something that you have to be comfortable being uncomfortable doing, but it's definitely an incredible quality that you can build as a leader.
