A short YouTube reflection (Day 268) by Chad Silverstein about leadership, responsibility, and the limits of encouraging team participation in personal-development practices. He explains that 'Built to Lead' practice requires voluntary, inner work and that only a subset of people (roughly 20% in his experience) choose to engage; leaders should be patient and lead by example rather than force participation.
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This is a really cool day. Day 268 I definitely had a tendency to be over responsible. My number one core value at my company, on my team was to take responsibility. I just believe that if you're involved then you should own it. And as soon as you're pointing the finger and deflecting the responsibility, it says something about you as a leader. I used to get upset when not everybody on my team wanted to come to Build to lead practice. I remember early on I went through many expressions of built to lead with my team. Sometimes made a mandatory, sometimes gave them an option, sometimes did it by invite only. And I think what I landed on and what always made the most sense and after talking to other clients and now seeing it makes sense, it's, it's something that people have to move towards. If they don't want to move towards it, it's not for them. You certainly could challenge someone maybe once when you're trying to explain to them what builds it is. But it's always better to let people move towards it themselves. I think doing the inner work is not easy. A lot of people maybe are not ready for it and it's not easy. You can't take it for granted and you can't have the curse of knowledge with it. And you can't get upset if people around you don't want to do it. So I'd say out of close to 100 people at my company, there were probably an average of 20 people that would come to practice. So 20% and definitely a little bit more than a few. But that's why we always say that built sleep is not for everyone, it's only for a few. Because most people don't want to do their hard work. They don't want to look in the mirror, they don't want to put it on paper, they don't want to share it with another human. And you know, they're not interested. You know, why make your life harder? You know, we talk about having to put yourself in acute pain. Well, you know, you can't blame people for not wanting to do that. It takes a certain type of mental toughness. It takes a certain type of individual and you know, it could come at different times in your life. And I think you just have to be patient. So if you're any leader that's building with built to lead and you have practice with your team and you're wondering why people aren't showing up, it's normal and don't beat yourself up and just focus on what you're doing. And hopefully the results of you will pull them in because it'll be attract. It'll be attracted to other people who are walking around you.
