Chad Silverstein on the gap between what we say matters and how we actually spend our time. A coaching practice helps people name what they believe, find the pain underneath, then do something concrete about it, like writing out their values or practicing seven good minutes with someone they love.
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Every built to lead client probably has been through it, where their builder came in to practice one on one, and, you know, the. The client had something going on in their personal life, probably at home, probably something personal, and they talk it through. And then the builder makes the client feel like an idiot for some, you know, catastrophizing or logical thinking and makes us write it out and get clear on what it is we believe, why we believe it, what we need to do to repair it, and, you know, to make sure it's aligned with our core that, you know, we've stamped on paper and repeated thousands of times about how important our family is or how much of being a parent or a husband or a wife or whatever it is you have in your writing that you are, you know, aiming at being, becoming whoever it is that you are and being able to, like, you know, live a life that you know is aligned with what you say. That's why it's so hard, and that's why so few people do it. And you're going through a hard thing at home with someone that you love. You got to hear where the real pain is and go to the root. And that requires you to do the same thing that we do at team practice, which most people don't even do at home, things like seven good minutes. And we covered that, you know, a couple days ago. And you can't get too comfortable, and you can't stop working on the most important things in your life, which are going to be the people that you love the most.
