Chad Silverstein reflects on the difficulty of the "attune" challenge (Day 335) for men and participants in the Build to Lead program, arguing that emotional intelligence and clear communication are central but hard skills. He advises honest self-assessment, choosing one small, concrete, measurable action to improve, and warns against oversized New Year–style goals that lead to quitting.
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I would say that there would be the biggest challenge in Build to Lead throughout this entire book for at least I'll speak for men. Men and Build to Lead builders and the Build to Lead clients that are going through the journey that this day 3:35 attune, is probably the hardest challenge that I think is a common denominator in everybody's life. And it's just because it's so hard. It's so hard. And we're all work in process. And I think being able to have the skills to be high level, you know, intelligent emotionally, but then also be really good at being able to connect and communicate articulately. And I think there's just a lot of nuances to it with timing and, you know, you can never get it perfectly right. And you're gonna upset someone sometimes, and then a lot of times you're just gonna have to say what needs to be said. And then sometimes you're gonna have to know when not to say a word. And it's just hard. It's really hard. And you got to work at it and you got to be able to be honest with an assessment of yourself, of where you currently are, and then pick one and then have some productive actions to overcome that little small one before you start trying to fix everything. And there's something to be said about why people fail with their New Year's resolutions because they said too big of goals that don't make sense or not, you know, specific, concrete, measurable, and small. And I think that's going to be something that's just going to be a recipe for disaster because you'll end up quitting. So finding one of these little nuances in this list I think is something that you could really benefit from. Write it out and pick a productive action and then go do it.
