Chad Silverstein argues for investing deeply in a small circle of close friends rather than spreading yourself thin. He emphasizes being reliably available to the few people who matter, since human relationships are irreplaceable in ways possessions never are.
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As you've heard in Build to Lead, we always talk about the few. You're lucky if you have a few. You need a few builders, you need a few friends. And it's true. But think about it from the other perspective now, which is, who are you a good friend to? Who are you a few, too, who can call you in the middle of the night and you'd be there in a second, and do they know that you know, you could say in your head that you would be that way for this person or that person, but if they don't know that you are or they don't feel that you are, that doesn't hold much weight. So I think you have to really be honest when you spit out the words that most built leaders will say, which is, you know, you're lucky if you have a few. And, you know, sometimes we had more than a few, or sometimes, you know, there's a reason why we only have a few, and that's fine. But how are you being one of the few and being very proactive about that in your relationships? Because at the end of the day, all the things with a price tag are replaceable, but the people that we have the closest in our lives are not. And that's something you got to take in, you got to think about. And if you lose something that can be purchased, again, not as meaningful as a person.