Chad Silverstein explains Build to Lead: a practice where people develop leadership skills in a psychologically safe group. You can pass until ready, peers support and challenge each other, and deep personal outcomes sometimes emerge, including marriages. Stay in your challenge zone, not overwhelmed.
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People who are nervous, scared when they come into Build to Lead practice, they don't want to share. They pass because you're allowed to pass in our recipe for how we speak and listen, making that safe environment. Hopefully eventually they'll feel comfortable sharing. But there is a level of trust. And if you think about what it's asking people to do, it's funny because people will joke and say group therapy. And I'm like, well, it's not really group therapy because we're there for leadership practice. We're talking about things that you wouldn't talk about and in therapy. And yeah, you know, you are sharing certain things that are very deep and emotional. So it can feel that way. But make no mistake about it, this is not therapy and we're not therapists. And being able to have the courage to put your heart out there, the reason it's so hard is because you can have an insensitive person take it and just squash it. That usually also doesn't happen at therapy. So yeah, there's a responsibility to kind of build sleep practice and to hear, you know, you know, and to share and to be able to challenge yourself and challenge other people to be the best version of, you know, that they can be. And when you know what people want, you know, what's driving them, it's even, you know, more critical to kind of come alongside and pick them up when they need help and challenge them when they need to be, you know, kicked in the butt. And then also knowing that there's a reciprocity being held accountable by your team as well, not being, you know, so quick to judge and triple DM when they come at you with feedback that you don't like. So, you know, mastering this art of living and kind of going after something big and, and, and using the relationships that you're building with the people around you as the, as the means to be able to get there sometimes has to be reflected upon. Because maybe it's the relationships. The relationships are what is meant to grow and, and meant to come from whatever it is. I mean, I had two people in my company that ended up getting married. Two different relationships. And I know that there's another one of our builders married someone that he met in a built fleet practice at one of our clients offices. So you just, you never know what the purpose of everything, anything is. And you kind of fight day by day and you guard it and you give a little bit of it and then you take a little bit of it back and you find your comfort zone and I'D say again, you just push yourself just on that side of chaos. If you feel like it's a little too much, pull it back. That's the best place to live, is in the challenge zone.
