Chad Silverstein walks through building your identity on purpose. Write "I am" statements that reflect who you actually are or want to become, then use them to guide real action in your work, relationships, and creative life.
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So we're Only on day 40 and here comes identity again. And the reason that this keeps coming up and why we say at build to lead that one of the hardest things to do is to figure out who you are is because people don't spend time working on themselves. They'll work on things, they'll work on trying to get clarity about something. But when you make yourself the focus, this isn't an ego driving, ego boosting exercise. This is about figuring out your true identity to know who you really are. So as we start off the identity as, you know, with the I am statements, and then we kind of peel back the onion and start to think, you know, how would you describe these labels that you give yourself and where do they show up in your life and which ones do you love that you want to even pursue more and master? You know, and whether it's your creativity or whether it's your deep thinking, whether it's your discipline, whatever it is that would describe who you are at your core and figuring that out and then being able to apply that and connect it as like a bridge to the things that you actually do so that you can deliberately walk through life being authentic and being genuine about who you really are and know exactly why you're doing what you're doing. And there is something that's just so attractive about someone who is so clear on their identity. And it really does encompass everything from the spiritual side of you to the family side of you, friendship side of you, the creative side of you at work, whatever it is that you do and the way that you are and the way you show up your identity is, it's everything for you to get clear on so that you can go pursue your life and feel so good that you're not trying to go get other people's approval or do things because other people want you to do it. And you're basically fulfilling their agenda. And it's a process. And so I think you have to keep revisiting your identity statement, revisit those labels, revisit the way you've described yourself on paper, and just keep crafting that into something that you feel really good about that when you read it, you could say, that's, that's me. Like, that is me. I was talking to one of the other builders on our team, Michelle, the other day, and she told me how when someone writes things in their identity that they're not doing or they're not, you know, for example, I'm not a marathon runner, but if I say I'm I'm a. I'm a health nut. I'm a marathon runner. You don't want that false identity identity in your statement. But if you are becoming a marathon runner because you're training for it and you're running a 5k and you're running, you signed up for a 10k in six months from now, then it is okay. Those positive affirmation statements that you're working towards can definitely be your identity. Think of it like a vision statement within your identity statement. And as long as you're moving towards it, that's legit. It's completely legit. You just want to make sure you don't have anything in there that's a false identity. The names you call yourself, you know, we all have our own insecurities. You don't want to. You don't want negative statements in your identity statements. And if you do, you want to try to frame them in a way that you're becoming more confident. And I think it's. It's important to be honest with yourself, but also be very deliberate about what you're putting in your writing. So if you have any questions, let us know.
