Chad Silverstein walks through building your identity with "I am" statements. Start with surface labels like "I am a father," then write narratives underneath describing the person you want to be. Revisit and refine these over time with feedback as you grow.
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We haven't visited Identity in a while. It was on day 14 and 15, if you remember. And we started off with version 1.0 of I am statements. And so there is a process for building out your core and your six pack. And the identity piece, it starts with the I ams. You have your labels, everyone kind of starts at that point. And then you want to write a little bit of a narrative because you want to know, dig beneath layer after layer after layer, layer of like, who, who you are and the why behind that layer. So a lot of people will, for me, for example, will say, I'm a father. You know, what kind of a father am I? What kind of a father do I want to be? And you want to describe that you want to really pull out, you know, who you are as a father, who you are as a high performer, as a friend, as a spouse, you know, as someone in your community, on your team, Wherever it is that you show up in your life, where your identity matters, which is pretty much everywhere. But wherever you spend the majority of your time, you know you're going to put these labels on yourself in your 1.0. But as you rinse through your identity, you really want to start to kind of unpack the depth underneath those labels and describe them, the words that make you feel like, yes, that's me. And you want to then kind of craft that into, like, a statement of who I am. So when someone says to you, you know, tell me about yourself, you can actually do it and you don't have to just throw out labels. And I think that's. That's going to be a rare thing. Most people can't do that. First off, most people don't know who they are. Second, most people will never spend one minute their whole life thinking about it. And third, you're already, you know, a couple months into this, and you hopefully already have a version or a couple different versions of this. And so don't stop. You know, it's not something you have to do every single day, but it is something that you have to revisit. And it's not something that you're ever going to just stop doing because you're going to evolve. You're going to change over time. Your identity changes as you grow. And so it's. It's always nice to know who you are. It's such a rare quality in meeting someone who's very confident because they know who they are. And you got to spend time with yourself, pen and paper, writing it out. It's the only way to do it. Find someone close to you that you can talk about it with. You know, that's why our clients do so well when they build out their cores, because they have a builder challenging them and asking why 10,000 times to get to that eighth or ninth answer, where it's like, that's the magic right there. And you're gonna have to do that by yourself since you're on your own right now. So don't get too far away from the identity piece. Make sure you're rinsing it. Make sure you're kind of sharing that in the forum space, getting some feedback, and hopefully you're a few versions down the road with this and getting a little bit more clear on who you are.
