Chad Silverstein on why leaders need to identify and release emotional baggage from their past. Write it down or talk it through in therapy to stop childhood wounds from unconsciously running your life. Pick one thing holding you back and let it go.
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So the end of day 51, Chet talks about letting go. And it brought me back to practice number one with my team at Choice Recovery. I remember I think there was a blog post or maybe it was the notes he sent me after practice that it said letting go. And the reason it said that is because in practice one with my team, I was in it for about six months, and we had a long discussion about all the baggage that we all bring to the table, all the baggage we bring to, you know, our new relationships. And we all have it. Most of us have suppressed it so much that we can't even recount it. You know, it's from early childhood stuff to, you know, becoming an adult. A lot of things happen, and unfortunately, a lot of tough things happen that we. We block it out. But we all have baggage. We all come into every relationship, every new team, every partnership with baggage, and some we put on the table, and some we decide to keep behind closed doors. But if there's one thing that I know for sure, 100% fact, that if you're going to become built to lead and you're going to be on this builder's journey, you have got to figure out what some of these things are, and you got to let them go. There's no way for you to grow into the leader that you want to become. When you're holding on to junk that is holding you back, and you're doing it, whether it's because of revenge or spite or you just couldn't forgive somebody for whatever reason, it is that you hold on to things, things that you're not even aware of. So the first step is to get it out, write it out on paper, talk to somebody. This is why talk therapy works for so many people, because they don't remember much, but once they start talking about it, they can get it out. Once they get it out, it's therapeutic. They can deal with it. They can have someone else help them change their perspective so that they can start to see things differently. And that makes it easier to let tough stuff go, you know, especially from when you're. When you're a little kid, there's a lot of things that probably happen that you can't control, and you got to deal with it. And if you suppress it, it's never going away. And it's going to show its ugly head at some point somewhere with someone, and unfortunately, you're not even going to be aware of it. It's going to be more of who you are because it's just tied into your identity, and it's become who you are because you haven't been able to. You haven't had the courage to address it. So pick something. Pick something from your past that is still holding you back and figure out a way to let it go. It's not going to be easy. Maybe you got to write about it, maybe you got to talk it through with somebody. That's for you to figure out. But learn that you can't go much further unless you figure out what's holding you back and letting that stuff go. Such a. Such a incredible insight, and it's very powerful for a lot of people who are able to do it. So hopefully you'll be able to dig one up and let it go.
