Chad Silverstein breaks down the five universal human fears: death, outsiders, the future, and others. He argues that confronting fears rather than avoiding them reduces paralysis, and walks through a writing exercise to identify which fear most affects you.
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So the big. The big Five Fears, we do this in practice all the time, and it's one of the Build's lead favorites. It's a tough subject for sure, but from the band's perspective and facilitating it just. You see these themes everywhere, and it's just a reality we had. You know, enough in the book that you can read about the Five Fears, and it's based on research. It's universal. This is what people fear. And so it's important for you to get clear on what your biggest fear is. One, because you got to deal with it. Suppressing it doesn't make it go away. The reality is what it is. And the more you can face the things that you're scared of, the more likely you are to not be paralyzed. When certain things happen in your life that stop you in your tracks, you know, whether it's the fear of death, the fear of an outsider, you know, the fear of what's coming next that you can't control. Doesn't make a difference. Everyone has fears, period. What you do with those, how you overcome them, how you address them, how you ignore them, says everything about what you believe and says everything about what you'll achieve. And that's why when you write your worldview and you start putting your beliefs on paper and you start to realize, wow, like, I've always thought this, but now that I'm thinking about it, there's another part of that that I actually believe that actually contradicts what I've always believed, because you never stop to think about it. And, you know, the fear of the future is a good example, because you can't control. You have no clue what tomorrow's going to bring. You can plan and do your projections. And I love the question, do you know where you're going to be in five years? And I laugh when people say that, because you have no clue what tomorrow's going to bring, let alone five years from now. You can hope. You can hope, but. But you have no clue. If I look back five years at where I was, and if you do the same, could you really have predicted you're going to. You are where you are right now. Like, very few people can say yes. And if you say yes and it's because you're in the same place, that's even worse, because you don't want to be in the same place that you're in right now, five years from now. Maybe in certain areas you do like being grateful for things. You want to be just as grateful five years from now, but hopefully, you'll have more to be grateful for. But the bottom line with, with day seven is, is to get a little clarity on what is the biggest fear in your life. Compare that to the five fears that you're seeing in this day. Where does it show up in your life? How does it hold you back? This is a great place to. To let it out and not, not bury it, whether it be in the private space that we have in the community, or you bring it to practice. One, you'll see that you have a lot in common with other people. And two, you may learn something or gain an insight that will help you be maybe a little bit less afraid of whatever it is that you're writing about. So it's a very powerful exercise. And, yeah, be really interesting to hear what everyone has to say.
