Day 72: Pruned...

I remember when Chet gave me failure to nerve. I don't know why I couldn't read the book. Some books speak to you, some books don't. This one just didn't speak to me. So I'd rather just pick his brain and learn through his learning. And he taught me a lot about things from this book. You know, this. Today's day is about some emotional intelligence. And this is a tough one for me. Being able to kind of detach from your emotions, of how you feel about a situation and. And be able to kind of like, see things from a different angle and detach yourself. That's a hard skill to build. We tend to be emotional beings, and we tend to react based on these emotions. This is why you'll hear people give advice about not dealing with something, let it sleep on it, come back in 24 hours to see if it still makes you feel a certain way. Because we tend to think irrationally when we're emotional. We catastrophize. We react in a way that's not us. And sometimes you gotta remove that emotion because before you take action, and so you have to reflect, you have to be able to slow down, you have to be able to write. And it's a real powerful skill if you can have some awareness when you start to feel like you're getting really emotional and heated up about something because someone's bringing something to your attention, and be able to pause, especially if they're talking about you, because you're hearing something about you, something you did, a choice you made, and you feel like sabotage is kind of like again bubbling up. So I think separating yourself from that, understanding the facts, remaining cool and calm, this is a skill that I'm working on right now, because when I get triggered, I may not say anything, but I wear it. And sometimes that's going to be a lot more powerful, as we know, than when you actually say something. People can read you, they can read me. And you have to be aware of that so that you can be cool, calm, and collected when you're triggered and to be able to understand that your level of emotional intelligence has everything to do with what kind of a leader you are and how people see you, your credibility, your reputation, whether or not they want to follow you. So what kind of a leader are you? Self assess yourself. Where is your emotional intelligence? Do you have any? Are you working on it? Do you even know what it means? Study it and then apply it to you and get some feedback from people in your life who can give you anything that can help so that you can improve and get stronger as a leader who builds that skill. Because it is definitely a skill. It's one of our essentials in our 12 Essentials of Personal Excellence playbook. And it's a hard one and it's one usually not worked on by many people. So study it and get some awareness on this one.