Short spoken excerpt from a Chad Silverstein YouTube video arguing that the key to healthier relationships is setting clear boundaries and expectations. Silverstein warns that establishing boundaries will often make people like you less, but that boundaries prevent recurring tension caused by failing to set expectations up front and ultimately improve your life.
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You know, when you. When you want everybody to like you and you're trying to win everybody over and you're influencing them to try to, like, latch onto your vision, the last thing you want to do is, you know, upset people and make them not like you. And so what I learned about setting boundaries and expectations and that once you lay them out, people won't like you as much. It's just the way it is. Someone's got to set the boundaries. And usually if you're experiencing some sort of tension in any relationship in your life, it's probably because you don't have boundaries and you have failed to set those boundaries and you're busy complaining and thinking about the other person instead of what you failed to do up front that would have avoided this potential problem that you're going through right now. So you got to learn how to set boundaries. You got to accept the fact that people aren't going to necessarily like them, but they're. They're serving a purpose for you and to make your life better. And that's why you have to have boundaries in your life.