Chad Silverstein and a co-host explain why we judge others instead of ourselves, and share an exercise they use with their spouse: imagine what people say about you, then role-play their perspective. It shifts how harshly you judge yourself and makes you less likely to gossip about others.
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One of the things that I cannot.
Stand about social media and just in.
General, a lot of the gossip and.
The crap that you'll hear on the Internet or in the news is people just love drama and they love talking.
About other people's drama. They love talking about other people.
And nobody's perfect.
Look at the President of the United States. Whether it's Trump or whether it's Biden, we rip them apart in, you know, they couldn't be more cruel or more dumb or more this or more that.
And it's just so easy to judge.
Other people, so much easier than to judge ourselves. We tend to be really hard on others and not so much on ourself.
And it's funny because you could be.
Caught into a conversation ripping people apart. Meanwhile, like, you're worse off than they.
Are, and chances are there's people talking about you.
So one of the games that my wife and I like to play when.
We leave people's houses, because we're very.
Careful not to talk about people, and we always say we wonder what people are saying about us. So we play a game, we pretend like we're them and we talk about us.
And it's very eye opening when you can see yourself the way people might see you. One, it's fun, and two, it's hard.
Truth for yourself that when you can do it in a playful way with someone that you love, you know you're not going to be so hard on yourself. But it's better to do that than to judge other people. It's better to do that than talk about other people. And I think you have to be.
Really careful when you're in work cultures and you're in community boards and you're.
With other people that you're not so.
Close with, because a lot of times people are going to talk and others.
Around them are not going to be.
Strong enough to disagree, so they're just.
Going to kind of go along with the conversation. And I personally think that if you're listening to it, you're just guilty as.
The person saying it.
But I think there's just no room for us as humans to be judging.
Other people when you know, we've got.
More issues than probably they have. And I think just being able to humble yourself and admit that truth to.
Yourself and to see people in a.
Good light, to give them the benefit.
Of the doubt, it's a great quality to have.
Even if someone might not be a good person for you to find their.
