Jackie Jarrard talks about how people flatten others into single identities, especially women facing contradictory judgments about how they look and act. She says learning to ignore those judgments and stay yourself takes time and heartache.
Well, it feels really weird when people fill in blanks and they see you as a singular thing.
Yes. And I think that is definitely what Marilyn experienced. That is largely the experience of being a woman, too. Just in general, whether you're. You're attractive, you're too attractive. What are you trying to do? Why do you need so much attention? Oh, well, you're not that attractive. Why don't you try harder? You're a bitch. You don't smile. I just said hi. Why can't you say hi back?
Don't you find that the best course is just to ignore all that and just be yourself?
Yeah, but I think you. You have to learn that. It takes a long time.
Yeah.
To learn.
And there's a lot of heartache in the process.
Definitely.
