Chris Collins shares a simple practice for disagreements: find something good in the other person's viewpoint, even when you strongly disagree. It humanizes opponents, reduces stress, and opens up actual conversation instead of talking past each other.
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Welcome, everybody, to Service Drive Evolution and your Friday drive by. A little something to think about going into the weekend. So now I'm always trying to improve myself. I'm always getting better. And I've learned this technique. Some of you younger kids might call this a hack on how to be a better person than I would like to share with you, and I'm hoping might inspire you to do the same, because it's really had a positive effect on me. Now.
To give you a little bit of context.
Most of the time when people are polarized by an opinion. So let me give you an example. Somebody loves Trump, right? So former President Trump. They love Trump.
Anything you say to that person, usually there isn't, there isn't going to be a negotiation, right? Let's say the same thing for Biden. Let's say the same thing for somebody who is a hardcore Mormon or a Christian or a Muslim, whatever it is. Like, so the Christians in my family and the way I was raised is everybody else, but the Christians are going to hell. And that's not negotiable. That's just how, how it is. Like, that's how strong that opinion is. So people have very strong polarizing opinions. And today.
It seems like more than ever, people are polarized by their opinion. And you're either in or you're out. You're either super liberal or super right. You're either super, you know, this religion or super that. But there's no in between. Now, I always tell people, because I find these sort of conversations fascinating.
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When somebody will say to me, well, we shouldn't talk politics or we shouldn't talk religion, my answer is always, why not? You could change my mind. And I'm just insinuating by saying that, that, like, the reason you don't want to talk about it is because you're so polarized you can't see the tree for the forest. And if you had an articulate point to make, I'm happy to talk about it. And you could change my mind because honestly, I'm not sure about anything. Like.
You know, I'm just not so sure about anything when it comes to politics that, you know, I have ideas, but I don't, I don't.
I don't know that I, you know, that if somebody made an articulate point and had really done their research and knew what they were talking about, or maybe they worked for the CIA and they were in the White House when some of these discussions happened, I definitely could have my, my mind change. So that being Said, I do oftentimes get annoyed by people that have a really, really strong opinion that I don't agree with. It does annoy me. It is a flaw for all of us. And so I've done this one thing that has worked really well for me recently. And there's a. There's a side effect to this that I didn't expect. But what I do when somebody has an opinion. So let's say somebody has an opinion about Biden and they're super. You know, he's the answer to everything, and he's perfect, and everything the other side does is wrong. I try to find something good about Biden. I try to find something good about the people that I don't like or respect. So I try to find something about Trump. Now, I'm not saying I don't like Trump or I don't like Biden. I'm saying in that scenario, in any scenario where I have an issue with somebody and I'm polarized against it, I stop for a second and I try to find the good in it. So, like, let's say, for example, you know, a religion that people are really, really stuck on, I will think about somebody who was in that religion who made a difference in my life. And if it's something with politics, like, say, Biden, I'll think, okay, well, the good thing about Biden being elected is that he's probably going to be harder on Russia, which I think probably is a good thing.
So now I've found something good. So whenever you come up against something that you don't agree with or you don't like, if we stop for a minute and you force yourself to find something good about that person or something good about that point of view, you start to see it from their side. And then here's the thing that happens, the weird side effect from this is it humanizes it. You stop seeing that person as a point of view, and you start to see them as a human, and then you start to connect with them. And when you start to see somebody actually as a human that's valued, you change your approach to them and you make more friends. At the end of the day, you're happier, too. It's less stress. You're not so opinionated. So that's my hack is whenever there's something that you don't like or you don't agree with, stop for a second and try to find something good in their point of view, something you could agree with, and then notice that then that humanizes them. And even though you don't agree with the main thing, the main objection that you had. It kind of it allows a conversation. It allows a two way conversation that's healthy and constructive. And it's not just emotions banging together like two atoms exploding in nuclear warfare, really. So food for thought. Stop yourself, find something good in it, readjust and then continue and it'll humanize it. You'll be happier, you'll have more fun. And don't go away from this drive by thinking that it was about politics because it really had nothing to do with politics. It has everything to do with how you see things and approach things in your point of view because the one thing that you control is your emotions and the way you see things and the way you react to things. So have a great weekend and I'll see you next time on Service Drive revolution.
Next week on Service Drive revolution. Today we're going to talk about Christian's weird fetish that involves metal in someone's face. And you're going to ask yourself the question, is he more punk rock that I actually thought? We're going to talk about employee retention and how it's going to get harder in the future. We're going to talk about firing single moms and why you are mad at Christian about that. And we have a question from a new service advisor, Daniel in Texas. All that coming up on Service Drive Revolution. Thanks for watching this week's Drive By. I hope we gave you something to think about over the weekend. We're uploading new stuff every day, so make sure you subscribe and click the bell icon. Subscribe so you don't miss out. If you have a question you'd like us to answer on the show, call 8333 Ask SDR and we'll answer your question on the show. That's 8333 Ask SDR. For special deals on our books and training, head over to offers.chriscollinsinc.com now that's offers.chriscollinsInc.com I'm Chris Collins and I'll see you in the next video sa.
