Chris Collins argues obsession is healthy when it has good intention behind it. It cuts out low-value tasks and improves time management, but obsession without positive intent produces stalkers, cults, and harmful leaders. The right obsession drives above-average performance.
There are narratives out there. Like, one we were talking about is so.
You can't be friends with people you work with because it's just business. That's a narrative that isn't true, but it's commonly repeated.
Yeah. Someone wants that to be true.
It's weird because it's a symptom. Right. It's treating a symptom like, hey, I didn't tell you this whole time that you weren't doing a good job, and now I'm gonna tell you you're gone.
Right. Yeah.
Like the thing I always say if, like, somebody's gonna let go here is like, do they know that they're gonna.
Get like, should never be a surprise.
Should never be a surprise. They should have every chance to change their behavior and then it's up to them. Right. But it's non negotiable. So the same thing is like, I've been with people at dinner and they will say, can we not talk business at dinner?
Then it's quiet the rest of the time.
Well, at first, like when that would happen to me when I was younger, I thought there was something wrong with me.
And then I started having friends. And one time I told a friend that somebody you know, actually, and he said, oh, you shouldn't be going to dinner with those people.
Oh, he's very right. Yeah, he's a smart dude.
But I never made that connection until he said, until he kind of pointed that out. I always thought, well, I'm just different. I'm the exception. And so most people don't want to talk about business at dinner. I'm imposing on them instead of even considering why am I at dinner with them.
It just turns out you're in the wrong room.
Yeah. And so I think the same thing applies to the topic that we want to share with you today is obsession. A lot of people think that obsession is a bad thing, that being obsessed with something is a bad thing. But like when, when we were talking about time management.
People that are obsessed don't struggle with time management because they're obsessed. Everything else that doesn't matter is getting eliminated and it's getting replaced with things that do matter, that are high leverage items. And so.
I also find that getting obsessed on things is actually very fun because you learn so much about yourself. You dig into areas that you wouldn't dig into. It also gives you the courage to do things you wouldn't normally do, like reach out to people. Right. Like there's people that we have hired to help us with stuff that we would have never met or that are celebrities are very famous in their field that we would have never met if we wouldn't have had needed that advice on that obsession that we're trying to figure out.
Right.
And so it makes you perform outside of the boundaries that would be just social norms into boundaries that are more effective. It broadens that.
Yeah, I love it. It's good. I have a list of a couple of things that obsession's really gotten a bad rap about this. And I don't know, maybe it's bad, maybe it's warranted, maybe it's not. But obsession's kind of bad for serial killers. I think.
Also obsession can be bad for stalkers and for people that are in a cult. I think that obsession might be bad, but I don't know. Have these things gotten a bad rap for no reason?
I think that the first two. Yes. I think cults. People don't realize that they're in a cult because they're connected, conditioned over time. But I don't know that it's an obsession. I don't know that it's an obsession.
It's more of accepting authority.
Yeah. I think the thing that my deal with cults is that it's really easy to go to all the negative, but I just. I can't believe how many leadership lessons you could take from it. If you can look at it without attaching the emotion, like the execution, the obedience, like there's a lot of kind of neat stuff that. That comes from a cult. But then I think that you were kind of saying this is that, you know, what's the difference between cult and really just really passionate about your cause is the intention, right?
Yeah.
So I wrote something down that I think that that's the scariest thing when it comes to cults. Is that what it has to do with his charisma. It was that Andrew Bustamante thing from when you interviewed him. I don't know if you'll remember this quote or not, but. But he said, charisma without intention is really dangerous. So if you're just charismatic, but you don't have an intention for good, that's where it's the scariest. So you think about.
Some of the most terrible leaders in Time that had a huge following. Their intention was in the wrong spot, but they had the charisma and the following, and that's how they get to where they're at. They definitely obsess about what they were trying to accomplish, and there wasn't much that was going to keep them from getting to their goal. So.
So kind of summarizing this and wrapping it up. People that are obsessed are outside of the norm, but they're the most fun to hang out with because they're clearly focused on something and they're trying to be special at something. They're passionate about it and they know more about it than anybody else. And it's not casual. Right. That sort of energy is contagious, but it's not normal. It's not average. This is above average performance that we're talking about. And there's nothing wrong with being obsessed. Being obsessed is good. It can be very healthy if the intention is in the right place.
That's right. Yeah. Like a lot of our. A lot of our elite members are obsessed. They're obsessed about the comp. It's funny to hear them talking about it, but they're. They're looking at ways to dissect that.
Let's say the comp and net.
Oh, yeah. The net to grow psycho.
When you said they were assessed, I thought net.
Yeah, okay.
You're right. The combo both too, but the net, it's good. Thanks so much for watching this clip of Service Driving Revolution. We're uploading new stuff every day, so make sure you subscribe and click the bell icon so you don't miss out. If you have a question you'd like us to answer on the show, call 8333-ASK SDR and we'll answer your question on the show. That's 8333 Ask SDR. For special deals on our books and training, head over to offers.chriscollinsinc.com now that's offers.chriscollinsInc.com I'm Chris Collins and I'll see you in the next video.
