Self-Care Part 5: How to be Friends With Everyone (Service Drive Revolution Drive-By)

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Welcome, everybody, to Service Drive Revolution in your Friday drive by. Say hello to Christian Lafferty.

Hello, everyone.

You know, most people are listening to this and they can't see you wave.

You don't think they can hear the bouncing back and forth?

No. So, in continuation of our series on self care, this is number five, and it's the final one. And we're going to talk about social. Self care. Social. What do you think that means? Let me tell you this. You're gonna have a little homework. You're gonna walk away with a little homework on this one.

Good.

But the homework is going to prove the point.

I'm in.

What do you think social means?

I think the way we interact with.

Others would be like the way we interact with others. How do you interact with others?

It's always the jokes, right?

I lead with humor a lot, for sure.

Everything's a joke. Everything.

And sometimes I try to turn stuff into a joke that shouldn't be.

Do you know who George Hamilton is?

The really tan guy?

Yeah. The actor.

Yeah.

So I've told this story before, but I think it. It sets up very nicely. What we're trying to talk about today is I had read an article with George Hamilton in Esquire magazine, and I used his.

Idea that he shared in there for a long time because we traveled a lot, right? And so what he said in there is what he would do is if he was doing a movie or something in a city, he would go to one of the nicer restaurants in town and he would go there to eat. He would introduce himself to the maitre d, and then he would tell the maitre d, hey, I'm going to come here a lot. I want you to just take an imprint of my credit card. And whenever I come here with guests, in the end we're just going to stand up and walk out. And I want you to just add a tip, add a 25% tip. And I never want to see a bill. Just run my card and add in the tip. And it was genius. And I did it. I also have been known to, when I go out to eat with people, go to the bathroom and slip a card. But, you know, I usually try to try to pick up the bill. So one day they were having this sale in Neiman Marcus, this was years ago. And there were two suits that I wanted to buy that were on sale, and I went in there to try them on, and I picked him out. And then the. The person helping me took me in the. In the back, in the dressing rooms. And guess who is there in the, in the little dressing room.

George Hamilton.

Guess what kind of jacket he was having fitted.

Tom Ford jacket.

No, it wasn't Tom Ford smoking jacket, bro. This jacket literally was like lime green with pink stripes.

Wow.

Like, only he could pull that off. Like, it was, it was unbelievable. The jacket, the color and how tan, how tan.

It definitely neon accentuates his, his tan. Right.

And so I, I said, I go.

I read an article and in Esquire that you did. And I tried it and really worked. And he goes, oh, what was the article? Remind me. And I told him about how go into a restaurant, the whole thing. And he said, you know, I learned that from the president of MGM or something. And he said the great thing about that is that people say like, oh, why would you, why would you pay for dinner for everybody all the time? And he said, but the thing is, is never go to dinner with somebody you wouldn't buy dinner for.

Wow.

Like, and so there's a couple things you can take from that is like, it's your time. Why spend time with people you don't want to be? Why would you spend time with people you wouldn't buy for?

Why?

Right? Yeah, I mean, it's kind of a flip on it, but it makes a lot of sense, is only go to dinner with people you want to buy for that you like, enjoy company. And then you still, you look like a badass because you just stand up and walk out and they think you got comps.

Right. They think you right. That's brilliant.

And so when we, when we talk about self care and, and being social, I want you to do a couple things and you're gonna, you're gonna see the return. This right away is I want you to, for the next week, every day, I want you to send two or three texts or voicemails or emails to people in your address book that you've worked with before, known before, went to school, friends that you haven't talked to in a while and just send them a text, something positive about how much you like them, miss them, something they contributed to you, something you learned from them, and do that to two or three people a day for five days, just Monday through Friday, or you could do Saturday through Thursday or however that math works, and watch what happens. Watch the return that you get from that and how it feels. There's a quote here. As we lose ourselves in the service of others, we discover our own lives and our own happiness. Dieter Uchtdorf. Dieter.

Very nice, Dieter.

That's not A joke. Christian. That's really his last name?

No, there was a. There's a sprockets kind of impression going around in my head.

So the other thing is connect with some family members. Right. But even in this time of COVID and lockdown and all that, I want you to have a dinner or I want you to have a zoom meeting or something with a. With a couple people that you respect, that you want to spend time with. You need to be the one to ask. You need to go out and do it. But you'll be surprised when you ask somebody out to drinks or dinner that they'll actually go.

Unless it's Christian. He'll be busy.

Is that the word?

Don't ask Christian. You're always busy.

I've got plans.

He's got a date schedule. But think of. Think about social self care and spending time with people that add value.

That feed your soul, that you learn from, that you laugh with, that you care being around and how healing that is. But the trick is, and that's your homework is you got to give to get. So do that for other people and put a little effort into spending time with a better. I wouldn't say class of people. I would say people with a better mindset that are more positive and have a better outlook on life and watch what happens to you, how contagious it is. Right?

Yeah. And. And then would you say that. I don't know if there are. There's no real data on this or anything like that, but the return is so much greater than the investment.

Yeah, totally.

Yeah. That's so fun.

It's obvious. It's clear. It's common sense. It's gonna work. Do your homework. We appreciate you. A little food for thought going into the weekend. Watch this preview of what's coming up on the big show next week and we'll see you again next time on Service Drive Revolution.

Next week on Service Drive Revolution, we're gonna talk about the top five things we are grateful for. Big news on the Christian Lafferty front.

Gonna be. I'm actually gonna do four things in six days. You just described me like a car.

Kanye West 2024.

We've got 200 weeks left till the next election. That's a lot of shirts.

Would you move to Canada?

No.

You wouldn't?

No, I would.

And we're trying to turn it into karate.

Yeah. I also like the fact that you're floating.

I think it's kind of fun.

You know, people listening to this have no idea what you're talking about.

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