Nikki DeLoach discusses a line from Glennon's book that changed how she thinks about disappointing others. The key idea: your duty is to disappoint people rather than disappoint yourself. She reflects on how this permission freed her from abandoning her own needs to please others.
She was in the room with her daughter, Tish, and she was having a conversation. And Tish says, chase wants me to join the same club he joined in middle school. I don't want to, Glennon says. So don't. Tish says, but I don't want to disappoint him. Glennon says, listen, every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as. As it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.
Read that last part again.
Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.
So when you read that the first time, what I.
Said, I have betrayed myself my entire life to please everybody else.
So in a sense, it gave me permission.
Yeah. I literally had abandoned myself and betrayed myself at every turn for most of my life to make everyone else comfortable, happy, pleased. And then Tish says, even you? And then Glennon says, especially me.
