Create Your Ideal Day: A Proven Exercise for Real Estate Growth

I have an exercise for you guys. Simple, very simple. But I think, again, good timing. I would personally suggest that you do this, and then you can either do this first or second in conjunction with the Motivational Monday from Monday. I would write at the top of the paper, what are we in, September? September of '27. You've done this in many different forms. I just want to do it like now for the end of the year and before QLS Live, so everybody's in the right mindset. I put yourself in that date of September 27th, and I'll give you some ideas. I'm talking about like, where are you? Right? Some of you might like Abby might be moved or whatever. So where are you? September 27th. Hold on. What's the kids, pets? Like, describe it all. September 27th. Describe in detail your ideal day, which by the way, in and of itself is hard to do because we go, yeah, but in our head. Yeah, just ideally there's nothing holding you back. You can wave the wand and paint your ideal day September 27th. What's it look like? That's what I mean. No yeah, buts. And then before you— and you can do more bullets, but before you've done that, I would write this down. What would be even better? Because I can tell you every stage, but certainly when I went through the 4 years of the crash, what I realized is it's 100%. In our head, it's the only thing. It's the only thing slowing us down or stopping us. One hundred percent. You definitely won't go past where you're writing. In other words, can't outgrow you. And I and here's I mentioned the crash. Let me say this: It's just to set yourself up. You can make whatever note you want on this note. It's not anything to do with what's happened to today. You got to kind of forget the past. There's a gentleman that'll be at this QLS Live event, I promise you he'll be here. And some of the coaches probably know who I'm referring to. And he's been at every event since pre-COVID. And every event he comes up to me and I hear about '08 for him. And he still has no money. He can't pay his bills, but he makes it to the event to tell me that. He's always doing staking and he's stuck in the past. It's not about the past. It's what you choose to be like. Ben, you choose right now. You have the chance to write it on paper. That might sound facetious, but I'm telling you, there's a whole bunch of people that are stuck in the past like that.

At least he's consistent.

Yeah, he's very consistent. He's actually from the Jersey area. And it's not frankly who you are right now that's holding you back. It's who you think you're not. That make sense? Little twist step. So it's not the past, it's not who you are now. It's who in your brain, you might not even do it consciously, but it's who you think you're not. So this is kind of a— it can be hard, but it's a good exercise. Like sit down, cup of coffee, tea, glass of wine, whatever you do, and be quiet with this for a little bit. When Some of this came from Brett Gilliland's retreat. He rented a house up in the hills of Arizona and brought like 12 of us there and said, here's some exercises, then like go find a spot. Like this gorgeous house. So, I sat out by the pool under this thing and just did this for an hour, hour and a half. It's amazing when you can't look at your phone and can't do anything else and they give you this homework to do. That's what I'm suggesting you do. Just like, think on it. Does this make sense, guys?

Yes, absolutely.

Okay. So just a thought. Combine that with the Motivation Monday. I think you'll have some fun with it because it's along the same lines, but they're not— they don't overlap.

Any—

I want to just simmer a little bit. Any questions or thoughts on this?

Chris, when you say Motivational Monday, are you talking about the rant?

No, the Motivational Monday. So the rant coming out Monday, I want you to see that's on Slack. The Motivational Monday, thanks for clarifying, is on YouTube.

Oh, on YouTube. Yeah. And then you send an email with it.

We—

yeah.

Yes.

Yeah. This Motivational Monday, Q&A Thursday, and Deal Structure Sundays, 2 of those come with an email too. The Q&A Thursdays don't come with an email. Okay, so you can go to the channel. You guys should all be subscribed. It may be a good thing to say because some of you might not. Make sure you subscribe to the channel. Since 2018, maybe '17, every week, never missed one. Those 3 things come out: Motivational Monday, Deal Structure Sunday, Q&A Thursday. The Q&As come from where? Questions from the community and support. So it's all things you should be tuning into. And, it's only 2 to— call it 2 to 15 minutes to be safe. Monday, Thursday, and Sunday. Make that part of your protocol. But yeah, thanks, Judy, because people would think those are close.

Yeah. No, I wasn't sure myself, so I just wanted to make sure I was looking at the right thing.

And then, Judy, I'm with you.

I watch them all.

I keep up on them. But when they ask, it's like, Which one was it?

Which is which?

I hadn't seen any rants, so then I was like, wait a minute, did I miss something? Did I look too early?

So, okay, so the rants— this is good. So, you know, again, sort of repeat earlier, the rants are only if and when the coaches and me, Nick, Zach, the team, Kelsey— yeah, I'm hearing this, we do a rant. Or we feel like the community needs this, we do a rant. Motivation Monday, unfortunately, I can't get out of. So every Monday they come out. And me or Zach or Nick or a clip from a mastermind or something, they're getting put out every Monday.

Yep.

And I pointed that out just because, again, Sandy and a couple of team members said, I really liked it personally. I like did it and you should do more of those. So that's why I'm asking you guys to look at it again. Other thoughts, questions? I don't want to just breeze over stuff if you guys have thoughts or brainstorms around this.

Chris, I have a real quick question. So the book that I'm listening to that you referred me to—

Can I tell everybody that? By the way, because I think I have Jeff on it too.

Okay.

I know I've said this to you guys a lot, but I do it twice a year and I just finished my second for 25. It's just The Secret of the Science of Getting Rich. Bob Proctor and Sandy Gallagher kind of do a a recap of Waddle's book from— I don't even know what year it was done— years, decades ago. So that's what I suggest that these guys go through. And what sparked it is with Jeff and Annette was simple logic of these guys report to me every night. And I said to them, we all get bombarded with stuff. We all have funks. And if you say you don't, you're crazy. Of course we do, right? We all do. So the only Not the only way. One of the ways to battle the stuff we all get hit with, whether it's news or stuff you're hearing subconsciously, you don't even know it's affecting you, is to barrage yourself with other positive stuff, right? Like if Kim puts something on, even on Instagram, which is what she does, or if I get caught on Fox, she'll go, I don't want to hear it. Because she knows it's just negative crap, right? So you got to insert a bunch of other stuff. And that's why on Audible, I go through that book twice a year minimum, sometimes 3. So go ahead. And I just want to give some context and they can all, can and should all do that.

Okay.

So I have, even before he's telling me to, I have been ever since you sent it to me, jotting down every day, minimum 3 to 5 things that I'm grateful for in my life. My question comes from in the current chapter that I'm in. He says, act like the person I want to be.

Mm-hmm.

So, and I'm not trying to throw a, yeah, but. So I've really, I feel like it's crazy, but in the last 2 to 3 days, I've become more confident in the script, listening to the script channel over and over. However, here's my issue. For me to act like the person I truly want to be, whether it be a year, 2 or 5 years out. Right now, my restraint is financial.

Yep.

And I understand it's affecting my confidence, um, but that, that is a big restraint right now that I'm not afraid to say in front of everyone. So I'm wondering how I can possibly act like the person I want to be that's successful Yep. And I haven't had my first sold yet.

Okay. First of all, most of the people on this screen can say the same thing. You just happen to say it out loud. Okay. That's number one. So congrats. Number 2, these guys don't know you like I know you because you report to me every night. You, you are successful in a lot of ways already and you've made huge progress since day one. So I'm just setting the scene for my comments to you. Third, as far as solutions now, and Rick might have one relative to how he teaches the why, but Okay, it's not easy. I did it for four years in my head, right? During the crash, right? That was my holdback. So it's not easy, but it's just like if any of you guys work out, I know a bunch of you do. It's just another habit, right? So what's the habit to help you? What am I talking about? I'm talking about sitting down with that quiet time, and as hard as it is, the first day might be thirty seconds in it, and you might be like. Then your head goes haywire back to the constraint. Next day, it might be 2 or 3 minutes. Eventually, if you practice it like you work out every day, and it might be 3 days or 5 days, but whatever it is for you, then you'll get to the point where you can sit and do that for 15 minutes. And what are you doing? You're visualizing the person you want to be. And it's not, again, it's not easy. So this first day, don't beat yourself up. Go with—

5 minutes.

Just how you feel in the morning to not have that constraint. And then it would be, how would you go about— how would you walk? How would you talk to people? Just start practicing that. For me, when, like, the most dead time for me is I'm back to kayaking right in front of my house in the ocean. So it's dead silent. That's where I do that stuff.

Okay.

For me. For you, it can be different. But find a non-distraction point where you can do that. And each day, try to up it. Don't beat yourself up. Just sit there for 15 minutes day one. You might be going cuckoo. Start with a minute or 30 seconds and be good with getting up and leaving the next day, next day, next day. Okay, just a thought based— and if I have other stuff, because we communicate nightly, I'll, I'll hit you. But does anyone else have any other ideas? Or Rick, I don't know if you have an idea of tying that to a why. Certainly it would help.

Thank you.

Yeah, the visualization, continuous visualization is so important. And you said you did the gratitude. Let me say this, you guys. This is more powerful than you think. It's not fluff. When you do your gratitude list though, you can and should be putting future stuff on there.

Oh.

Because your subconscious has no freaking clue whether it's real or not. No distinction.

Good point. Okay.

So, I'm on— my journal's already put away, guys. But I told Annette this.

I'm on—

tomorrow, I think it's day 114 without missing gratitude in the morning. And if I— and I've had to go back twice because I missed one freaking day. But this one's 114 straight. And I would tell you that now, because of the habits, like if you work out or you don't, it's now I'm screwed up if I don't do it. Like, the second I get up, like, I work out. But After that, Kim sees me writing in that, never asks me what I'm writing, just, I just write it. And if I miss it now, I'm all screwed up. But before, it was like, oh, you know, I kept missing them. Day 18, you miss it. And now it's habit. So, I think you should add those to your gratitude future stuff.

Most certainly will. Thank you.

When you write it with pen in hand, it's going in. I'll throw another wacky one out to you guys. With the exception of Nick from his accident, none of you probably write with your opposite hand. Is that a true statement? Okay. So at the end of my gratitude, I write one statement with my left hand and it sucks. But you're triggering different things in your brain when you do that journaling like that. One sentence could be, I'm aligned energetically with my goals or You know, whatever. Well, you write out a goal, do something with your left hand if you're righty. Try it and you're gonna be cursing me tomorrow morning. It looks like shit, but I know what it says and it triggers something different. Pen to paper, not typing on the computer. There's a guy that visited our mastermind call in 2000— sorry, our mastermind event. Ed Rush put a mastermind together with Glacier Kennedy. There's about 18 of us in the room. And there was a guy that came in, I forget what brand he built, but he was big. And he talked for an hour about journaling. And these are just a couple of things. I'll try to find the book that he gave us that talked just about these ideas, how to get more out of journaling. It's amazing. That's not the book. I'll find the book. But I remember that specifically. So I did it. And then Bob Proctor talks about that too. Is that helpful in that?

Yeah.

That helps me quite a bit. And the future, I should have related that with it because he talks about shifting our paradigm and how the subconscious— it just never occurred to me. So I appreciate that.

You bet. And if you guys listen to that book, this is any book, but any book at all, but this one's powerful.

You will—

I listened to it November, December for year-end to get ready for the year. And I just finished the second time. I'm getting totally different stuff out of it. Why? Because I'm in a different spot. He didn't say anything different. I'm in a totally different spot. Like, oh shoot, I didn't hear that last time. And I've listened to this thing 2 or 3 times a year for 3 years.

Chris, do you find you get more out of listening to a book like that versus reading it? Because some books you have to read because you got to like mark them up or whatever.

Personally, I do it out of the need for like I do a lot of walking, hiking with my vest, and then the machines where I can't read, right? I'll be like— so that's why I do it. And in my car, I want to get about 5 to 20 minutes of that in, even if it's on the way to the office in the morning. And then I'll do a book out on the porch, right? So, I do both. So, I'm always battling through at least 2 or 3 books at a time. Yeah, I get more out of listening, like I said, more time.

Yeah, I find that, um, you know, like a lot of books are suggested, um, reading and stuff. So I get them, I start reading one, and another book comes in and stuff, and then I start reading that one, and I find like some of them I'm not finishing now.

All right, I'll give you 10 things I do.

What's that?

Um, I'll get way ahead of myself with the physical. If I go in a bookstore, I get way ahead of myself. I gotta come out with like 4. But what I'll do at home, if I'm feeling overwhelmed and I'm not excited to pick it up, I literally throw it away. Because I might have changed the state I'm in. If I'm not excited to go, I can't wait to pick that up, then I just toss it. Like, I can't wait to put the Audible on the way home because it'll reset me. If I'm not feeling that way, I just get rid of it.

Okay.

Because guess what? It'll come back up mentally, energetically, if you are like looking for that at a different time. The other thing I'll do is if I'm listening to a book or reading a book and they suggest a book, I chase that energy.

Okay.

So when I read Zero Limits years ago, I remember this, it was in my apartment. I read Zero Limits and Joe Vitale would suggest a book and then I go get that book and then suggest one and I chased that whole thing down for like 2 years and got a lot out of it. I just stayed in that path. Again, just Different things I'm throwing at you guys in case you get a nugget or two out of it.

Yeah. You know, like The Wealthy Gardener, that was fabulous.

Amazing book.

Love it.

Yep.

Another good, like, regroup to listen to again. You know, Proctor talks about this, you guys, but it's amazing that I did it till like 2 years ago that everyone gets a book and reads it and then goes, okay, good, got it. Ronnie read that one. No, like, you're leaving so much on the table. Earl Nightingale— I'm dating myself, but that's where I started listening to cassettes years ago. Earl Nightingale used to have a book on his desk and keep— like, he'd have it on his desk, like, open all the time. He'd be studying, like, 3 pages for, like, 2 or 3 months, like it was a textbook. So that's why I repeat books now. Not just I read it. I used to feel like I had to read a book and then say, oh, I read 10 books. Yeah, you didn't get shit because you didn't study anything. Not sure where to get started? Go to smartrealestatecoach.com/getgoing for free books, strategy calls, and a whole bunch more. We're going to help you get going the wicked smart way. We've been after this for over a decade doing exactly that. Does this make sense to you guys? Like any ideas on it? Like any nuggets out of this? It's okay if you say no. I just want to talk about it again.

This one, I really liked what you said, which is reading books that really you're energized about. Because I think I fall into the same trap of it gets old. And then I try to struggle and drudge through it. And it's like, no, just find something I'm really excited about and read it.

Yeah, I have no problem throwing in the basket. No problem.

Yeah, I've noticed I will listen to a book one time through, get the gist, and I'll listen to it again. And then I will get a lot more detail because I've already heard the big point. And then I'm trying to catch up with all the little, the little nuances and things. So reading it again, like, like you said, like 6 months or something, might even be more.

Yeah, and you change too. So not only did you not hear it, you, you're going to take it in differently for sure.

No, appreciate that. That's a good suggestion. Thank you.

Yeah, I think I find it very helpful. I had, uh, listened to Science of Getting Rich, uh, probably 6 months ago when you had, um, Mentioned it somewhere along the line.

Well, The Science of Getting Rich is still a book. It's still out there by Wattles. But then—

Right. This is— yeah, yeah. But that's the start. I did that and then I did— I had gotten the— I think it was the Money Chi from you at the office. It just started me on a long journey that I'm in the middle of on because I'm holding beliefs that are holding me back that I didn't even know were in there.

Of course.

So it's like that.

We all are. Yeah, we all will be in 10 years. We just hope that we keep raising the bar to fix those, right?

Yeah.

And I listen to the audibles on at least 1.25 is what I do. Same with podcasts. If you guys listen to it on 1.25, you get used to listening to me, so it'd be good training.