Short YouTube clip of Simon Sinek recounting an anecdote about his competitive nephew who scored the losing touchdown. Sinek contrasts standard win/lose parenting advice with an 'infinite game' framing — calling days 'ahead' or 'behind' rather than final wins or losses — arguing that being ahead or behind is temporary and useful for humility and motivation.
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My nephew is a competitive little kid, does not like losing. He had the worst team in the league, and he played a game, and he scored the losing touchdown. And he was very angry. And my sister didn't dispense to him the standard parenting advice. It doesn't matter who wins or loses. What matters is how we play the game. Which raises the question, then why do we keep score? Because she'd been hearing all my ideas about the infinite game, spontaneously decided to say, okay, so you had a behind day. What are you going to do? So make sure you have an ahead day next time, and by telling people that it's not a good day or a bad day or we won or we lost, because those things are final. And in business, unless you go out of business, you haven't lost anything. But rather, it's about ahead and behind, because when you're behind, it's not permanent, but when you're ahead, it's not permanent. And so it keeps you humble when you're doing well, and it keeps you motivated when you're falling behind.