Robin Sharma says social media's like-seeking is a dopamine addiction rooted in tribal instinct that kills deep work. He argues solitude is essential for real achievement and that breaking the validation habit requires inner work to pursue your actual mission.
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Isolation, you can be out in the world. You can be a history maker and a productive legend. You don't get to do both. One thing all great geniuses do is they spend a lot of time in solitude. Solitude has a bad reputation in our society right now. We think if we're not with the cool crowd, if we're not checking our devices, if we're not posting selfies or other images, we are losing out. We have all these fears. And here's what really happens. As you start to play with your phone, as you start to get hooked on likes, as you start to spend most of your best hours of your greatest days.
Posting, checking, playing with apps, getting hooked, you actually become addicted. We all know about technological addiction, and it's literally a dopamine. Dopamine, as I mentioned earlier in this mastery session, is the inspirational neurotransmitter. And every single time you check, check for a, like, there's a shot of dopamine and it becomes this addiction. Every single time you check for a life, the hook grows stronger. Every single time you pick up your phone, you build the neural pathway to check it even more often. Every single time you see that if someone's liking you and is your following growing, you tap into that reward system that every human brain has. Because when we were tribal thousands of years ago on the savannah, we wanted to be liked by the people in our tribe. We wanted to follow the herd. And if we weren't being followed by the herd, we would stray from the herd and get eaten by saber toothed tigers. We would starve or we would be captured by warring tribes. And now here it is in modern society. But we still have that neurobiological instinct. It's a part of who we are to check for likes. So we fit into the crowd. Well, the true nature of a leader is you're not a follower. And so you absolutely have to do the inner work required to break that chook of being liked. I mean, that's what leadership is all about. That's what being a great artist is all about. That's what dominating your domain is all about. That's what changing the world is all about. It's about saying, here's who I am. I have my own mission, my own vision, and I'm going to break free from the crowd.
