The Skill You Need to Develop | Simon Sinek

Tell someone I need help. Like I think it is one of us. It's one of these skills that is.

Becoming fast lost, especially amongst a younger.

Generation, which is the skill to ask for help.

You know, we're all trying to act so tough.

You know, this, this nation over indexed on the whole rugged individualism thing, you.

Know, where we define success as individual success. And, and most of our metrics, most of our incentives and almost every job are individual incentives. There's no team bonus, there's an individual.

Bonus if you hit your numbers.

And I think we've overdid it, quite frankly. And I think the pendulum needs to come back.

And we have to remember that we're a team, we're members of teams, we're members of families, remember communities, we're members of societies.

And this is where Maslov got it wrong.

Maslov's hierarchy of needs. He says fundamentally at the bottom of the pyramid, this food and shelter.

And he put, you know, third, you.

Know, third up the rung he put.

Relationships. Well, I've never heard of anyone dying.

By suicide because they were hungry. I've heard of people dying by suicide.

Because they were lonely. So in other words, it can't be right. And at the top you have self actualization how or like I'm all self.

Actualized looking down at the rest of.

You who aren't at the top of the pyramid. What about shared actualization? You know, and the mistake he made is that there's a paradox which is every moment of every day we are.

Both individuals and members of groups.

And every day we have to reconcile.

That do I put myself first at.

The expense of someone else, or do.

I prioritize someone else at the expense of myself?

And the answer is you're right and you're wrong. And there's a whole group of people.

That says, no, no, you always take.

Care of yourself first because if you're.

Not healthy, you can't help others.

And there's another group of people that.

Says, no, you always help others first because unless you help them, they won't.

Be there for you. It's a paradox. It doesn't work. It's not so clean. And this is what we have to reconcile every day.

And this is why finding balance and.

Managing it and the stresses and trains, but the challenge of asking for help and relying on our community really, really matters. My definition of faith is that knowing you're on a team, even when you.

Don'T know who all the players are.

We are, we are surrounded by people who love us and will take care of us.

You just have to ask sometimes, because sometimes they don't know that we need it.