Codie Sanchez argues that instead of actively searching for a romantic partner or treating dating as a numbers game via apps, people should focus on self-improvement and becoming interesting. Through pursuing passions, improving health/energy, and working on oneself, one naturally attracts higher-quality partners, a pattern Sanchez supports with personal anecdotes.
Have you ever proactively looked for a partner and thinking a lot about finding a partner? No. It's always kind of stumbled upon me. Typically, people who are competent and looking for that same thing in a partner, they focus on bettering themselves before they focus on looking for another. A human who's like, I really just want to be with somebody. I want to be with somebody. I'm ready. How do I find my person? Get that energy out of your life as both a woman, which I can speak more to, and a man, and instead become somebody worth finding. And that's really hard to hear. But when you start working out, which doesn't mean you have to be perfectly fit, but you have more energy when you start pursuing something that you're uniquely interested in, you're more interesting, and thus you will attract more interesting people. I think one of the worst things we've ever done is allow dating apps to enter into our dating equation. We have thought that it is a numbers game of finding the right person as opposed to becoming the right person. When you become the right person, you will attract people continuously, no matter what. And I've seen this from both myself and my friends, who are varying levels of attractive, varying levels of rich, but working really hard on a few things that make them very interesting.
