Codie SanchezFounder @ Contrarian Thinking

How To Know If Someone Is Right For You

15 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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Codie Sanchez says the real test of compatibility is whether someone asks you questions back. If you're always the one asking and they only compliment your surface traits, they're not your person. Try asking what they find interesting about you.

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How do you know if they're your person? I started to realize it's actually not what you know about them, but what they ask about you. You know, I went on a date. I remember most of them, I didn't get asked that much. I did all the question asking. Don't go on another date just to hear somebody else's story, but never share your own. If you want to know if somebody is your person, well, have they asked, who are you? What are you interested? Like, what lights you up? I've seen so many people have dates and relationships talking about how great the other person is, saying they were nice, they were handsome, but then realizing, wait a second, What did they think was so incredible about me? They just liked looking at the mirror all day. Those are the people that you know are not gonna be your person. If you wanna know if you already have one of those right now, I think you just ask them the age-old female question, which is, what do you find interesting about me?