Codie SanchezFounder @ Contrarian Thinking

This is one lesson I learned the hard way…

9 May 2026 · 1 min

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Codie Sanchez learned from her husband Chris that patience is a finite resource. Testing someone's limits repeatedly, then playing victim when they finally snap, is a mistake. Respect and boundaries matter more than expecting endless forgiveness.

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You know what I learned early on by dating a really serious, strong man? You just don't test a man's patience and then audition for the role of victim when it finally runs out. You know, I tried all of this early on in my relationship and it made me miserable because you can't poke, prod, and cross lines and act stunned when his voice drops an octave. You know, a good man like my husband, he'll be patient and gentle and forgiving because he's trying to protect me and you from all the rough edges. But especially with men, I've realized patience are not an infinite resource. You know, I jokingly often call it Chris's credit line. And when you keep swiping at it with disrespect, eventually the bill comes due. So you can't get mad when a man is stern and serious after being poked and prodded. I jokingly say even a koala bear is still a bear.