Codie Sanchez divides friends into two types: treadmill friends who energize you and sofa friends who drain you. She calls this energy transference, the emotional hangover after you spend time with someone. Steve Jobs had a reality distortion field that made people feel capable; Maya Angelou said people forget what you said but remember how you made them feel.
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Treadmill friends versus sofa friends. Treadmill friends are people where after you hang out with them, you have so much energy you want to run on a treadmill to calm down. You're just like raring to go. They fire you up. Then sofa friends are. After hanging out with them, you're so drained that you want to lie down on a sofa to recover. I think that energy transfers. It's called energy transference and it's a concept that's difficult to describe in words, but everyone has felt it. You felt like you've had a double shot of espresso after hanging out or talking with somebody you know. Steve Jobs was famous for energy transference so strong that they called it his reality distortion field. You believed you could achieve incredible things around him. You've always struggled to understand that saying, I think was Maya Angelou, that people don't remember what you say. They remember the way that you made them feel. That's energy transference.