Self-Kindness vs Enabling: Finding Balance as a Neurodivergent #selfcare #selfkindness #ndoutloud

So how do you accommodate? How do you accommodate? You've got to find your accommodations. And often accommodations— what accommodations do you always suggest to somebody who's really, really struggling with everything right now?

My accommodations are— I mean, there's always the one we hear, right? Be kind to yourself. We struggle a lot with that, I think, as a neurodivergent community because we've had so many internalized messages. Now, As a parent, there is a difference between being kind to yourself and enabling yourself. And that is what people have to find out how to do. It's okay to have an inner monologue that coaches you and tells you to do things. And the problem is, is we have trouble— Coach Ron said this— we have a problem with temperance, right? We allow ourselves to do too much. So instead of just being kind to ourselves, We're either super indulgent or we're super shameful. So there's like, I work with this.