Danielle RalstonFounder, How Capacity Works · Founder of ND Hive | Building the productivity hub where work actually gets done | Execution spaces, body doubling & community accountability

The Importance of #Validation in Overcoming Self-Doubt #mentalhealth #ndoutloud #neurodivergent

16 Sept 2024 · 1 min

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Danielle Ralston explains why neurodivergent people need explicit validation for basic tasks like brushing teeth or showering. Most adults never hear "great job" for everyday accomplishments, which fuels self-doubt. She shares how saying it out loud, even to yourself, rebuilds self-worth.

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I do think this is really important to point out as a coach, that a lot of our clients need validation from themselves, from others, from things, but they don't hear it because we don't tell ourselves and other adults don't tell us, man, great fucking job. You remember to brush your teeth every single day this week. And for somebody who is neurodivergent like that, some major accomplishment sometimes, right? Or you took a shower every day. Great job. So I really try to tell my clients, hey, Hey, great job, or I'm super proud of you for doing this, because we don't tell ourselves that, and adults don't tell each other that about things. I remember my husband saying— I was like, that is awesome, you did this, it was so cool. And he's like, you're my wife, you have to say that.