Danielle RalstonFounder, How Capacity Works · Founder of ND Hive | Building the productivity hub where work actually gets done | Execution spaces, body doubling & community accountability

The Myth of Perfect Days A Reality Check #selfcare #adhd #ndoutloud #perfectdays

16 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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In this short dialogue, the speakers critique the cultural pressure—particularly in the United States—to experience "perfect" days constantly. Speaker A argues that truly perfect days are rare, estimating they occur only once every three to six months for most people, and about once every 45 days for women, linking the timing to hormonal cycles and personal tracking data. Speaker B expands on this by suggesting that redefining success should focus on the consistency of "mid‑level" days, where completing even a few tasks counts as a successful day, rather than striving for an unattainable flawless day. Together, they promote a more realistic, self‑compassionate view of daily productivity, especially for individuals with ADHD.

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We live in a world, especially if you are in the US, we live in a world that expects us to have those perfect days all of the time. Like, the world is assuming that that's a possible thing. And I'm going to tell you, whether you're ADHD or not, that should be a once every 6 months, once every 3 months thing. And the honest truth for women, that happens probably once every 45 days. And yes, I've mapped this out because I like to track things.
Once every 45 days we have one of those perfect days. Like, it's probably the stars align with your hormone cycle and everything else like that. But, but I think, I think it's redefining what a successful day is. Yes. Because those middle-level days are success because we're having those days consistently. You may not check everything off your to-do list, but you're checking one or two things off your to-do list. So you're like, that's still a success.