Danielle RalstonFounder, How Capacity Works · Founder of ND Hive | Building the productivity hub where work actually gets done | Execution spaces, body doubling & community accountability

When Self-Care Turns Toxic

20 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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In this segment of the YouTube video "When Self-Care Turns Toxic," two speakers discuss the importance of being patient and kind to oneself while recognizing the limits of self‑care. Speaker A emphasizes the need to reset a day when possible, but also acknowledges that sometimes one must simply step away and try again tomorrow. Speaker B expands on how challenges related to ADHD and autism can be mistakenly used as blanket excuses for chronic dysfunction, warning that persistent inability to function may signal deeper issues such as depression or bipolar disorder. They stress the importance of consulting a therapist, reaching out for support (including contacting "Tara" and the video creators), and provide reassurance that help is available. The overall tone is conversational, empathetic, and encouraging, aiming to guide viewers toward healthier self‑care boundaries and professional assistance when needed.

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And it's, it's so necessary, you know, to be patient and kind to ourselves and our bodies. And, you know, you were asking about like resetting and how do we reset our day, but also recognizing that there may be moments where you just can't and you need to just kind of check out for the day and say, you know what, I'll try again tomorrow. Um, and that's okay too. It is okay. Now, something I am gonna throw out there.
This is a problem with ADHD and autism. Well, I think any, anything you can be neurotypical and experience this is not allowing yourself to do that all of the time. Yeah. Because there is a line and, and everybody's different, so there's no like defined line. Yes. But allowing yourself to stay stuck in that is a sign of something more serious, and you need to be talking with a therapist about that because depression, bipolar disorder, other things could be causing you to not be able to function because You should be able to function at least 90% of the time. ADHD, autism, whatever, as the excuse for not doing anything, because it's not. And if you're not able to right now, and it's okay if you're not able to right now, reach out to Tara, reach out to me. Let's get you some of the support that you need so that you can get to functional level. And we are absolutely here to help. If you need anything at all, you can always reach out to either of us. You can reach us at the link below. We would love to talk to you. You have an amazing day. Yes. Have a good day.