2 Numbers, 1 Drink Challenge - How to Work A Room!

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Hello, my loves, and welcome to the GetYourGuy coaching podcast. This episode is going to be an interesting one. So I did a live recently, and I gave the girls a challenge, and I want to give you a challenge. I want you this week, this weekend to get two numbers and get a guy to buy a drink for you. And I know that you all are freaking out right now because you don't know how to do it. Many of you, maybe not all of you. But in this episode, I'm going to give you the step by step guide in terms of how to do that. Right? There's strategy involved, and I want to make sure that you know how to command a room, you know how to work a room to get what you want when it comes to dating, because days are gone where we're going to just put baby in a corner when we're going to be cute and mute. You have to create your love life. You can't just wait for it, especially in today's climate and dating. So without further ado, welcome to how to Work a Room, a masterclass. I need you to get.

Two numbers from guys this weekend and a guy to buy you a drink. One drink, two numbers. Who's taking the challenge?

Who's taking the challenge? Okay. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 30.

Girl, I was. I was. I was counting that. Like, I was playing high and go seek, and that was it. Okay, so this is like 50 of them. Okay. Do you guys need help trying to figure out how to do that? Do you guys know how to do that?

Someone said, I will attempt this challenge. I don't believe you. You're not giving me confidence. There's no attempting here. We just Nike it. Just do it.

Okay, so people are saying healthy. So I'll stay on for another five minutes because I want you guys to. I really want you guys to succeed. So what's. What is stopping you from doing this? Where does it feel awkward?

What do you feel like you can't do?

Okay, so people are saying shy, anxious. So most of it is shy, anxious, and awkward. Someone Said leave the house. Girl, it's not March 2020. Girl, you're not going to catch the bid.

Not knowing what to say. Okay.

Rejection. Making eye contact. It's awkward because I want the men to lead. Also, I'm shy. These men are getting rejected all the time. So.

Okay, ask for number. Okay. Never see anyone I like enough to do it. It's not about that. You have to like a guy. But this is what I'm trying to change the mentality of. Here's what I want you all to know. The girls that are dating for marriage are single. The girls that are dating for fun, they get their man. And what I'm challenging you to do is to do it for the fun, to do it for the plot, and to do it for the challenge.

Okay? You're. I'm hearing people are just like, oh, my God, I'm making a big deal out of this. I don't want to mess things up. I don't want to be awkward because I think that this is my potential future husband. Girl, if you're so anxious, find the ugliest dude in the. In the club, in the bar, in the lounge, and talk to him. He's not going to reject you. He's not even rejecting himself.

No, I'm saying ugly as an example, because I think sometimes what happens is when you see a hot guy, a lot of women will put him on a pedestal, and then that's the thing that actually gets them anxious and shy and insecure. Girl, talk to an old guy. Girl, talk to a woman. Girl, we just finished Pride Month. I don't care.

Okay? People are tripping. So here's the thing. Couple of things. One, let's talk about rejection. One, look at the feet. When you walk into a room, look at a man's feet. If his feet are pointing towards you, please understand that that means that he's interested in you and that he likes you.

Okay?

But here's what I need you to know. If you go into a room. So you go into a lounge, and there's 50 people there, and half of them are men, 25 men. There may only be two to four guys that are into you. I'm not giving you the script. I'm not giving you the language yet, because you have to. I need you to understand this mentality. There's two to four men in that place that are checking for you.

Your job in the first five minutes is to figure out. Five to ten minutes is to figure out who that is.

Yeah. The challenge is you need to get Two numbers and Amanda. Buy you a drink?

Fine ass. Auntie said y' all killing me with medium ugly guys. That's the sweet spot. That's the cheat code. Okay? So first when you get into the place, the first 10 minutes is I've got to figure out who's checking for me.

Okay? So once you establish those two to four guys.

After that, I life.

I life. You're not looking at anybody else except for those four guys, okay?

Yeah, honey, do it. Bring another girlfriend with you. Not more than. Not more than two girlfriends.

Make it a challenge. Pretend you're a college boy and this is a competition, okay? Because I know how you guys like to tussle and. And compete.

Someone said I'm at a church conference and I'm going to try to get two numbers. Yeah, girl, tell them that's what the Lord told you to do, girl. Tell him to write that number in your Bible. Girl, if his name says James, girl, have him write it in James. If his name is Luke, girl, have him write it in Luke.

Okay, okay, let's get back to. Let's get back to more seriousness, okay? Yeah, honey. Sky Daddy said to do it. Sky Daddy told me I had to.

That's right. That's the line right there, girl. That's the line every. Yes. Girl, tell them that you need. You need somebody to help you study the Bible. Tell them you don't know how to read, girl. Tell them you don't know how to pray.

Yeah.

Yes, honey, give it thy number. I know that's right. Okay, get into Sky Daddy. Honey.

Girl, I'm already going to hell. Girl, there's no God. That's why I say whatever the hell I want to say. Girl. Girl, Sky Daddy kick me out. Girl.

I'm kidding. Okay, first step, first 10 minutes. Assess your prey. Thank you. MK now that we have four guys that are checking for us, okay, now, the next five to 10 minutes, we're giving them nothing but eye life. Smile, smile, smile, smile. And we're literally work, work. North, south, east, west. North, south, east, west. We're not looking at anybody else. Even if my friends are talking to me. I'm not even looking at my friends. Girl, you just talk to my ear, Girl, I'm on a mission. Boom, boom, boom, boom. Okay, that's what this looks like. Okay?

And then. So that's what we're doing for five to 10 minutes. That's if a guy doesn't come up to you within those five to 10 minutes, normally, one of them will. If not, that's fine. Too. That's when you make your way over to the bar. If you're already not at the bar. And then this is when someone said, I'm really in bed right now. Yes, honey, we are honey. Okay. Yeah. It's giving compass tea.

Okay. Okay. So then we give them a little bit of time to come to us. If they don't come to us, that is fine. You're not a loser. You haven't lost. This is very. The game hasn't even started yet. Then you want to make your way to the bar. Start talking to the bartender. Why? Because these men need to know that you are open to having conversations with men. When you are with your girls, he's gonna think, oh, she's just with her girl. She's just trying to kiki with them.

Okay?

Doesn't have to be at a bar.

For your studious girls. Girl, go to a library. I don't care. Okay.

No, don't go straight to the bar. Girl, don't go straight to the bar. When you go straight to the bar, you're missing the opportunity for him to get to know you and warm up to get you that drink. Rookie mistake.

All we're doing is not having a drink for about 10 to 15 minutes. If you can do that, girl, some of us can't. Girl. No shade.

Okay, so I'm at the bar. We're.

We're having a conversation with the bartender, which is 70% of the time a man. Yeah, honey. Grocery store. Get your kombucha right here in the refrigerator. Do it in the grocery store, girl. Girl. Trader Joe's.

You're at the bar, you're having a conversation. Generally, what will happen is at that point after you're still giving life, right? That's when the majority of the approach will happen, right? If it is to happen. And if they don't approach you, if they don't start talking to you, oftentimes what will happen is that's when they will move closer, close to you. And suddenly they will be drinking their drink really fast to get another drink to be next to you.

Okay? That's when they're next to you and they're about to order a drink or they're going to get a drink. That's when you say, that's when you start the conversation.

Right? And there's a variety of different things that you can say in that moment, right?

Variety.

Want me to give you some lines? Give me a hashtag lines if you want some lines.

Okay, I'm seeing some hash. I'm only Seeing three. Okay, I'm seeing some lines. Okay, okay, now y' all are acting this goddamn fool. Girl, I got, girl, there are so many lines here. I look like I feel like I'm at a Hollywood party.

Okay, so he's next to you, right? He's just come next to you.

Okay.

He'S just come next to you.

You can look over to him and you can find, you can say, finally, you, finally you've come over.

Catch that tea.

Okay? Or.

Are you coming over to, to get me a drink? Assume it, assume it.

Assume it.

This is what it's about.

Or we're going to give him a compliment. Don't give him a, don't give him a lame compliment.

Like, don't say, I like your hair, girl. That's lame.

Be like, I love your watch. What brand is that again?

Yeah, April 200 said, that's wild. Girl, closed mouth does not get fat.

Girl. If he's wearing an apple watch, girl, then you want to ask him, let me see that apple watch. What's your heart rate? Is it up? Since you've come next to me. Catch that. How many steps have have you done today? Are you a healthy man? Catch that. Do you see how I am telling these men that they are going to have to work for me? They're gonna have to prove themselves to me. That's what we're doing here.

Okay?

Okay. So now some guy has been, okay, so now we're in convo. He's already purchased a drink because he has to, because he knows I'm a queen.

And if he doesn't, if he doesn't get me a drink and you know, the first three minutes I said, you know, I've been chatting with you for a while and I really thought that you would be a gentleman. And most gentlemen, you know, ask a woman if she wants something to drink. I'm a little bit disappointed in you. And then you smile afterward.

And then you tilt the neck.

It's not bullying. Someone said you got to bully them a little bit. Yes, they're disappointed in you. It gives mommy tea.

Yeah. Someone said, you're so good. That's because I'm a dating coach. And if you are, if a dating coach can't do this and can't give that to you like this, then they don't know how to do it.

Yes.

Someone said, what are we drinking tonight? Girl, don't ask a man that because then you've already self employed yourself as a bartender.

That's what he has to ask you because he has to work for you.

Yeah. So, yes. Some other lines that you might want to give. So we're gonna. We can compliment him if we want, right?

We can ask him for help.

Excuse me, can you do me a favor? Can you pass me a napkin over there?

Yeah. This. This. This drink that I got is a little bit watery.

Just getting my hand all wet.

Okay. Okay. So after that palm of your hand.

Okay? But here's the thing, and here's where a lot of girls mess up.

Mess up.

Y' all have conversations with these men way too long.

Okay? You get lost in the sauce, and you're having. You're bantering and you're flirting, and before you know it, it's been 15 minutes.

A man gets maximum 10 minutes with you.

When he comes, immediately you know what you're doing, you're gonna check your phone real quick, right? Going to say, oh, okay, 1214. He has until 1224. And then you put it down, and then you start to engage. Why?

If you longer than that, the other three men, who are still scoping you, by the way, they're going to think that Batman has you.

And you, you've already lost the other three guys. Some of y' all talk. Talk to the first guy and you talking to him for the rest of the night.

Girl, you lost the game because your challenge is two numbers, one drink. And we just got the drink.

Someone said, I'm a yapper.

I don't care.

Someone said, guilty. As guilty as OJ Girl.

So we. Let's say we've been talking for eight minutes. Oh, my God. I've been loving this conversation. Why didn't I give you my number so that we can continue this conversation some at some point tomorrow or. If you don't know how you feel about him, this is what you do.

I'm loving this conversation. Why don't I get your number.

So that we can continue this conversation sometime tomorrow?

If you like him, you give him your number. If you don't know if you like him or he's a little.

You get his number.

Okay?

Once you exchange numbers, this is what you do.

Then you let him know I've had a really good time chatting with you. Find me at the end of the night before you leave.

Catch that tea. What have I done here? Now, even though we've exchanged numbers, I still have him working for me, and his eyes are still going to be on me because he still has to find me.

Are you catching it? Have you clocked the T? He's not done. He's not over yet, ladies, he's just on layaway right now.

We just put him on the shelf.

Find me at the end of the night. Before you go, don't forget to say bye now.

Yes, honey. Elf on the shelf.

Elf on the shelf.

Okay, what if he watches us talking to another guy? It's going to make him want you even more. Now he's going to know that you're hot. You're not just some random commodity like corn. You're fucking caviar, girl. You want them to see you.

Yeah, It'll stress them out. Men love to be stressed out.

So now that's when you mosey on somewhere else. And you know what you do.

Now we're not looking at north, south, east, west. Now we're only looking at the other three guys that we haven't engaged.

West, north, east, west, north east for another five or 10 minutes.

West, north east for another five or 10 minutes. And because these guys have seen you already talking to a guy, they're gonna be like, oh, shit, I gotta shoot my shot. Because she's hot. Shit.

So it's going to inspire one of these guys to shoot his shot. Because you've already shown him that I'm open to conversation and communication. Because I've already chatted with the bartender and I've already chatted with this guy. Not too long just to chat, chat. So he already knows if I go up to her, she's not going to reject me. She's actually a very open woman. Yeah, honey, men are very competitive. They want to win.

Okay, so now what happens is. So you know what happened, girl? East is coming over. East is coming over. Hey, you ladies having a good time tonight? I am. Now.

What have I done?

Now what is happening? He already knows I'm not rejecting him. Now he's gonna go for it, right?

Someone said, what if the guy gives you a love island? Can I borrow you for a chat? Then you let him know, sir, I don't know you that well yet. You're gonna have to at least introduce yourself.

Hey, my name is Jerry. Jerry what?

Make him give you his last name, girl. So you can link. You can give that Google and LinkedIn t, girl, when you're in the bathroom.

Okay?

So then he starts his chat and his. Whatever he's talking about, because you know he's gonna be talking about a lot of. Right. So you. You're giving your banter, you're giving your flirt.

Yes, honey, true. Peoplesearch.com Then he gets another 10 minutes.

Well, it was great getting to Know, you.

You'Ve. You've. You have thoroughly cracked me up.

We'll have to do this another time. Why don't I take your number? Because I don't. I'm not living for him. Maybe he's not that attractive to me. Why don't I take your number and we can continue this tomorrow?

What's Your number again?

917.

Okay.

All right. Well, you know, you've been a gentleman until now, so I do expect you to at least say goodbye before you leave.

Oh, yeah, for sure, for sure. Of course I would, you know, whatever they say. So now I got two men, eyes on me.

Okay. Who are going to be looking at me, chasing me, and going to want. Want to say goodbye to me.

At this point, you have a decision to make. Yes, honey. All eyes on me. Like Tupac. You have a decision to make. If you're tired, the game is over.

Right. And you don't need to talk to the other two if you want to go for the gold, if you're an American. Because we all. It's gold or nothing, honey. Right. We'll do at least one more because we want a gold medalist, a silver medalist, and a bronze medalist for the night.

So we'll do one more and we'll do the same thing.

Dominique said, coach, I apologize your advice and got the best man. Congratulations, girl. I'm happy for you.

Team USA show up. So we do it one more time.

We get another number. This time I give my number, let's say to North.

And then before they go, y' all need to go. Cuz you know what? The last thing that you want is three men trying to talk to you at the same time when they're. Everybody's about to go.

So.

You do a round.

You say, all right, North. I'm gonna go now. Have a good one. You give your hug, you go to east. All right, East. I'm gonna go now. It's great chatting with you. I hope to hear from you soon. And you go to South. All right, South. But here's the gag, the one that you like the most, you're gonna give a little bit more tea or time to. So if every. Every guy gets about 30 seconds. 30 seconds for your gold medalist, you give him about two minutes.

Yeah. You don't ever want to be in a place where it feels like a crazy ass movie and you're the protagonist. And it's like we're 80% done with the movie and all of the guys are trying to talk to you and the crazy music Is on. And you look like a crazy ass mofo.

Two minutes. And say what? I had a really great time chatting with you. I'm going to leave now because, you know, I need my beauty rest. You got to let them know that beautification is very important to you. Right?

And you know he's going to say, yeah, it was great chatting with you, too. You guys get home safe. Well, you have my number, so I'll be home in about 30 minutes. I hope that you can text me and make sure that I'm okay.

I mean, you are a gentleman. Of course I will. Of course I will. And then for your gold medalist. Yes, honey, the music in the background is crazy in love circa 2003. For your gold medalist, you lay out your hand and you allow him to kiss it. It was nice meeting you.

And that is what you call a night.

That's how you do it. So now I have three numbers. I only got one drink, but I could have easily gotten two or three.

And for the girls that are like, oh, I don't have a roster, girl. I just got three guys right now. Someone said, they still kiss hands, girl. If you force it on them. If you just have your hand out there, they have to pick it up. And if they don't, you let them know. Oh, I thought you were a gentleman. I guess not.

Okay.

Always put your hand out, bitch. I'm gay. I'm a black dude. That is six, two. I still do this to some men. And you know what they do? They don't try to dat me up, girl. They hold my hand. Dainty, bitch. Dainty. Nice meeting you.

Yeah.

It'S giving prize energy, bitches. And I say, bitch with nothing but love. You have to be the queen. But the gag. And this is why I said at the very beginning, someone said, I thought you were married. I am married.

I am married.

I can be married and be dainty.

So.

What are we doing here? Someone said, am we the flirt? This is why I'm a dating coach.

Get you one who knows how to do it, all right? I can't be teaching my girls about it and not know how to do it myself.

Someone said, oh, you choosing girl?

I can't, girl. I got abandonment issues. I can't do anything without my man.

You know what I mean, jelly bean? No. Nobody's cheating over here, girl. I'm stuck with him, and he stuck with me. Till our last day. Till our last breath.

Okay, Queen energy. Queen energy. But what I was going to say real quick was the most important part. And the thing that a lot of girls don't do is that first five to 10 minutes, you got to know who your north, south, east, west is.

And you got to look at the feet.

Okay? So many people are so like, my God, girl, this is my song. Da, da da da. You'll go. You got a job. Yes, honey. This is charm school. This is offline dating charm school.

Y'. All. Most of y' all alcoholic girls, no shade. Going straight to the bar, getting a drink. You've missed the most important part.

Okay.

Girl, you can dance, but the first part is really important. I personally would be dancing.

Either before I go to the bar, because now I'm thirsty, or after I have chatted with the first guy.

Because now all eyes are on me.

And now I am Britney Spears giving him a show. Honey. Yeah.

Someone said another scenario. No, girl, I have to go. I have to go to bed.

I have to get my beauty slate.

All right. I hope this is helpful.

This is what it looks like. If you want to learn how to date, if you want to learn how to get your guy both online and offline. Online and offline. You know, that's what it's about. Yes, honey, I'm going to end on that note. I love you all. Someone said, is this video? Call with me if you want to work with me. This is a sliver of what we do. And I'll chat with you later. All righty. Bye Bye.

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