This content was created by Dave Kashen. This content was uploaded by Dave Kashen. This is a YouTube video titled "Discover Yourself: The Journey Beyond Identity #innergame #identity #selfjourney" (uploaded 2026-01-12). It contains a dialog between Dave Kashen and another participant (labeled Speaker A). The conversation focuses on inner work and identity — discussing feelings such as boredom, anger, shame, gratitude, and the idea of welcoming all feelings (including joy) to reduce suffering and gain freedom.
People barely knew my name, right? They barely knew where I was from, like what ethnicity. They didn't know anything.
Just right now, this human being right here.
Yeah, we're like beautiful, you know, sitting and talking about like the, the, the play where, you know, the sort of people on the street, and we're just talking about nonsense basically. Like, do I like myself in that moment?
I found that I did. I'm so glad that you had that experience. Um, so the thing I want to say to you about the— this like echo of pain, which is kind of what I'm hearing, um, there's this— I'll paraphrase a little bit— expression I heard recently, which is, your unfelt feelings are keeping your unwanted patterns in place. And Um, I did hear you say maybe I'm running away from boredom, and that's partly why I asked about like, were you sitting quietly, you know, alone in a room? Um, boredom is actually a form of anger. A lot of people don't, don't connect that. Regardless, my sense is, um, if you go toward the boredom and welcome and feel the boredom, um, You might gain some freedom in that. And more generally, I would really look like— to me, where true freedom lies is in welcoming all feelings: guilt, shame, embarrassment, dread, uh, anger, sadness. So I would get— I don't know if you have a sense— I'd get curious, which are the feelings you tend to— because most of us have like, oh, these are the good ones, these are the bad ones, these are positive these are negative. We learned, you know, do you have a sense of, are there any particular feelings that you tend to judge or avoid or suppress?
Uh, probably still more gratitude and sort of like warm feelings, I would say, as part of it. Like, I still stay in my head when things are great.
Like, yeah, by the way, that's, that's eerily common that, you know, people think that we, we mostly resist the quote-unquote negative feelings, and important quote-unquote the ones we perceive as negative— anger, sadness, fear. Most people actually resist joy, aliveness, uh, gratitude even more. It's like this upper limit we have. And so that might be as powerful a journey for you as anything. It's just like, it's like, okay, you might default to what feels more like a reminiscent of painful feelings, um, in, in just resisting the joy. And really, I think what causes pain is resistance. So any feeling resisted feels painful. That same feeling not resisted doesn't. So I wonder how much of the pain is just resisted joy.
