Emotional Decisions: How Feelings Drive Your Choices #innergame #emotionalmastery #founderwellbeing

We pretend that we're rational creatures and that we make decisions rationally, but it's not true. Like, we actually make decisions emotionally. And in fact, there's, there's been studies and, uh, you know, people with brain injury where they couldn't feel and, you know, you give 'em IQ test, they'll do it, you know, every bit as good as they've ever done. But you ask 'em like, what color pen would you like to use for the test?, and they literally spend hours deliberating which color pen to use because we actually make decisions emotionally and then we rationalize them. And so what happens is most people make decisions in order to avoid certain feelings that they don't wanna feel. And if we, if we're even more precise, in order to avoid feeling certain sensations in their body that they don't wanna feel. So most people's lives are literally limited by which physical sensations they're willing to experience in their body. And so if you— like, one of my goals for my clients is to expand their capacity to be with more intense sensations: anger, fear, rage, sadness, grief. Because the more you can be with it, the less you're limited. And if you're really honest with yourself, you really look— a lot of your decisions are just to avoid certain sensations, certain feelings.