This content was created by Dave Kashen. This content was uploaded by Dave Kashen. This is a YouTube video titled "Mastering Emotions: Feel Without Resistance" (published 2026-01-21). The excerpt is a conversational, instructional segment featuring Dave Kashen and Jesse guiding listeners through a body-check and emotional-awareness practice: naming bodily sensations, noticing resistance to feelings (sadness, anger), and trying strategies like exaggerating resistance then welcoming emotions. The hosts reference Joel Hudson and offer practical cues for reducing constriction and changing the felt experience.
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just first check in. Okay, yes, I have this thought. What's happening in my body? What am I feeling? And see if you can name it. Oh, I think there's some—
yeah, like, could you quiet down for one minute and just slow down and try to take a few breaths and feel into your body or feel into something? Then you notice something. Yes, shoulders are tight.
So it's not so, uh, abstract or conceptual. Let's just invite listeners, do that, do that right now. All right, bring your attention down from your head and just notice what's actually occurring in your body. You know, if it helps, you could scan your head, your throat, your neck and shoulders, your chest, your stomach, and just see what are you actually noticing. Jesse, what are you noticing?
I feel like a little tightness in my chest. I have like a little ball there. My shoulders feel a little pulled on.
Mm-hmm. Yeah, so given the map, there's likely some sadness and some anger. And notice if you're like fully welcoming them in, or if there's any resistance, if you're bracing against, pushing away.
How do I know? Like, so if I slow down, then I feel some things in my body. Yeah, I know when I'm resisting.
One thing that can help is just to like exaggerate the contrast. So just go ahead and resist, like, like, you know, go away, I don't want to feel you. Yeah. And just notice what actually occurs.
My body gets tight.
Yeah, we have to get tight to stop feeling, right? We have to constrict against them. And ironically, they'll likely intensify when you do that. And then try the opposite. Welcome, like a guest in your home that you're truly excited to welcome in. Welcome sadness, welcome constriction, that ball sensation in your chest, welcome pulling sensation in your shoulders. Yep. And one thing you may notice is that the actual experience of it shifts. That— this kind of blew my mind when I heard this from Joel Hudson, that like the experience of an emotion plus resistance is actually a fundamentally different experience than the emotion without resistance. It's just that we tend to resist the same emotions all the time. Because we resist them, they feel painful. Because they feel painful, we resist them. So we're stuck in a loop, not realizing that, like so many things, that we're the one creating it.
