Dave Kashen explains how naming your internal patterns, like "Comparing Charlie," creates distance from them and gives you choice. When you separate yourself from these personas, you stop being controlled by them and can decide how to respond instead.
That's the beauty of naming and recognizing our patterns, our personas. There's the, there's the in-the-moment awareness, but the, by recognizing it, we know what to look for. It's easier to spot it in the moment, right? That's a great example. Mr. Unsatisfied or the Comparing My— Comparing Charlie. I think I had a client, we called it Comparing Charlie. And once we named it, it was just much easier to recognize it. And again, in that moment of recognition, There's a way the fact that you can see it tells you that you're not it, right? Like if it's an object of your awareness, it can't be you. So then it already gives you some spaciousness and some choice around, do I want to keep playing that? Is that serving me? Maybe sometimes, yeah, it's motivating me. I want to compare, but most of the time, like, no, that's just, that's just the persona. I can let that go.
