Dave Kashen explains the difference between accepting reality and resisting it, arguing that blaming circumstances keeps you stuck. He pushes the idea that you're the creator of your results, not a victim of them, offering practical mindset advice for work and leadership.
The simple way I think about it is see yourself as the creator of the results. And it's probably a good moment to distinguish blame because it all starts with the above and below line distinction of, am I relating to reality like it just is what it is, right, with acceptance? Or am I like resisting reality, attached, wishing it was different, Basically calling it a problem. The moment I think this is a problem, right? Oh, our team didn't hit our goal. This is a problem. Then my mind goes, okay, who's— who is there to blame for this problem, for things not being the way they should be? But if I can stand and like, no, it just is what it is, then I can look for how did I create it this way without blaming myself. That's the probably most important distinction to make when you're practicing. 'Cause most people, it's sort of ironic, they'll like slap themselves on the wrist. Oh, it was my fault, right? Buck stops here, my fault, done.
