Dave Kashen explains why you can't let go of people: you're avoiding sadness. The mind keeps rationalizing second chances, but real release requires crying and feeling the loss, not just thinking your way through it.
there was times where I just had to literally, like, cry and, like, let go. Like, it didn't work. Yeah. And it's the thing to see that's so on point here is it's just not wanting to feel that sadness. That is really what's in the way, right? The mind will sort of rationalize, like, oh, I should coach them, I should give them another chance, maybe they can get there. But we know at some level, generally know at some level, yeah, they're you know, they're just not there. They're not a fit, which is okay. But when we don't want to feel the sadness, we won't let them go.
