Dave Kashen explores how the parts of others that trigger you most reveal unloved parts of yourself. When you react with anger or fear, you're seeing something you haven't accepted in yourself. Unconditional self-love means recognizing and embracing those rejected pieces.
I find it helpful to recognize that all humans have all the same parts, right? We tend to think of ourselves as these unique snowflakes, and in some ways we are. And I, I, that's how I think about it. We all have all it. So, you know, anything that you recognize in yourself, you could find in me. Anything that you recognize in me, you could find in yourself. This is why I love, like, just as an aside, the tool of projection. Like, if I get pissed off by something that someone does nowadays, I, I get excited because I'm like, oh, this is showing me a part of myself that I haven't loved. I get that my primary commitment is to unconditional love for myself and everyone else. So, you know, it's the fact that you don't want to be perceived as weak says something about your relationship with this weak part that we all have.
