Dave Kashen explains why your desired future state needs to be a vivid picture you actually want, not a polished mission statement. The difference matters because most people confuse what they should want with what they truly desire, and a coach's job is helping you tell the two apart.
Now let's go back to DFS. So what is, what is like, once I've accepted that, what, how detailed am I? How specific? Like what, tell me the nature of it.
So I would, so one, it's not just a, you know, a paragraph, you know, somewhere. It's not a mission statement. It's not some words on the wall. It's, it's, an actual, like, picture or movie in your mind's eye or your team's mind eye of the future, like a snapshot or movie of the future that you actually desire. So the D in desired future state is really important. Like, if your team doesn't actually desire, or, or the person you're talking to doesn't actually desire, or you don't actually desire the vision, it's not going to generate that healthy tension. Like, and this is where the question of what do you really want becomes so important, because again, so many of us are operating from should, and this is what's right, which is all really other people's ideas, you know, imposed onto you. And I think to be really authentic as a human, as a leader, requires you to tune into what do I really want, right? What's my heart's desire? Like, what do I want to create? And I end up spending a lot of time, as you know, with clients trying to really discern between what they think they should achieve and what they actually want
